by bintangkecil on Wednesday, July 23rd, 2008 | Friendship

Have you ever felt you knew your friends very well until a misfortune happens?

My friend, Lena, once told me, “It was very bitter for me at that time but after that, I realize how lucky I was to have a misfortune.” (ironic, isn’t it? - BK - Bintang Kecil).

“You are very lucky to have experienced a misfortune”, I told her.
You know why? Because, just because you find out who’s your enemy under your blanket sooner … rather than later … right?

On one night on a summer weekend, Lena was planning to go and hang out at a lounge in Hollywood with her group of friends. Lena was going to carpool with them. They were going to pick her up on the way to the lounge at 8pm. They didn’t want Lena to go and drive alone to the lounge, they said …

Somehow, one of Lena’s friends, Heidi, called her and said, “Lena, could you pick up Tommy on your way to the lounge? Let’s just meet up there!”

Lena: “What? Who’s Tommy?”

Heidi: “He’s my friend, he wants to join us to the lounge. Could you pick him up? He lives in Pasadena. It’s close from Arcadia right?” (If you don’t know how close they are, let’s say it’s about 10-15 miles?)

Lena: “I thought you were going to pick me up?”

Heidi: “No, change of plans .. Tommy wants to go but he doesn’t want to drive and your place is close to his so can you please pick him up?”

Lena was already upset, she called me right after Heidi called her.

Lena: “I can’t believe what Heidi just did .. Heidi is going to have to pass Tommy’s house anyway but she’s telling me to pick him up? I don’t even know him. Why should I pick him up?”

BK: “I guess because she does not want Tommy to drive and it you’re not driving, there wouldn’t be enough room for all of you guys?”

Lena: “Yes, exactly. I never knew that she would trade me with some guy ..”

Lena didn’t end up going that night and spent the night at my place instead.

She told me that long time ago, she helped Heidi a lot when she needs transportation. She actually drove 35 miles to pick her up and drove her around. She didn’t think that Heidi would have used her just to pick up a guy for her own advantage. I told her that it’s probably Heidi’s logical solution at that time?? ..

Lena also mentioned that she had a flat tire in the middle of the night once and called Heidi (thinking that Heidi was her closest friend …) and left a voicemail, but she did not pick up and did not even call until the next day. Somebody else, who’s not even in the hangout group, called her and came to help her put on the spare tire.

Misfortune can tell you a lot about your true friends …

I can only say “Lena, you are very lucky … to have less unidentified true friends”.

(Other bigger misfortunate was not mentioned in this story because of Lena’s privacy)

Misfortune shows those who are not really friends. - Aristotle

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