by wildcherry on Thursday, September 17th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Friendship, Love, Relationship

Words can be the most powerful motivation tool but also the most destructive weapon in the world. It reminds me of nuclear energy; it can be turn into a nuclear bomb which will create massive destruction force or you can use it to generate electricity enough to satisfy the need for millions of people.

Words can be in the form of praise and compliment but also a weapon that can hurt and leave an emotional scar in a person. For instance, rumors are able to cause a person to break down and become adversely affected because of the large number of people being involved.

When it comes to relationship, hurtful remarks and insults being hurled on a person in the fit of anger during conflicts can deeply affect the person’s psychological and emotional state. The impact of these words can be further intensified especially when it come out from a person who you are closely attached to. The emotional effect may heal over time but it can also change a person’s perception of humanity and relationships permanently.

To know the power of words, try to think back to your childhood and recall a time that someone said something to you that you’ve carried with you ever since. Was it positive or negative?

It’s important for us to keep in mind the power of speech to both inspire and inflict pain. We need to be aware of the things that come out of our mouths, to think about the words before we say them. This is especially true for parents because of how impressionable the mind of a child is. But as the incident mentioned at the start of this article points out, it is important in any environment including work.

So what can you do to help monitor your speech and choose your words more carefully? One technique is before you make a comment to or about someone, ask yourself the following three questions:
1) Is this true?
2) Is this kind? and
3) Is this necessary to say?

These questions can help you analyze what you’re going to say before it slips out of your mouth and hurts someone unnecessarily. Using these questions does not mean that you never say something that is unkind, untrue, or unnecessary. But it does mean that you will have thought about it first. Telling your spouse that you no longer love them may not be kind, but if it’s true, it may be necessary. But gossiping to a co-worker that the boss is having an affair is probably unnecessary, unkind, and possibly untrue.

Our world is full of untrue, unkind and unnecessary words that are constantly doing damage. And if we take a moment to consider our speech, we may find it possible to change what we say to carry a more positive energy - maybe we can even inspire someone!

So here’s my challenge to all of you:

Why don’t you go inspire someone today!

It can be your co-workers, your family members, your friends at schools, love ones or even strangers. Use your words to generate energy in their life!

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