by schultz on Monday, September 15th, 2008 | Dating, Love | 1 Comment

Is it weird to try to meet girls through facebook?

So, to me it seems really weird, but sometimes when I have liquid courage I’m more apt to go for things. Case in point, I would never add anybody I haven’t at least met in real life on Facebook. Thats what Myspace is for, random pointless adding. I keep my Facebook stocked full of only people I know. But sometimes when I see a cute girl on another friends page that I dont know, I want to add them.

So the predictiment I’m in now, is that I’ve added a girl from a friends page, then added a girl from that girls friend page (are you following me?). That was about 2 weeks ago. Then I saw her on my list and played dumb and asked her if we had met before, just to start conversation. She replied that she doesnt remember meeting me and that I probably added her because she is friends with with the first girl I had added. Now the problem is, I don’t really knowthe first girl, so how can I continue any further conversation, plus get to know her without seeming like a creeper? Should I just stop?

Tags: Facebook, Meet Girl, online dating

by schultz on Tuesday, August 12th, 2008 | Dating | 14 Comments

Hi, I need some insight on my situation. I am 25 and women pretty much see right through me. I always end up being just friends, ‘cept the one relationship i was in. Lasted about 16 months, but that ended when i realized that she didn’t see me romantically anways, so i was just a friend even to her.

People tell me i am a pretty good looking guy, sometimes i believe them. what i mean by that is every once in a while i will look in the mirror and see a good looking guy, but most of the time i just see this ugly person.

Just the thought of talking to a woman is enough to stop my heart. I mean, every now and then i will meet a woman and somehow i will get the balls to talk to her and persue her, and sometimes she will act interested, for like a friggin week. Then, nothing. This happens everytime. To be quite honest, i’m sick of it.

I’ve talked to my closest friends about this, but their answers are pretty much the same; “She’s out there! keep yer head up buddy!”, there is a problem with this though, its not as if i go through an elaborate courtship with a woman and THEN i’m written off as a d-bag, (cept the one, but that really was more of a fluke) apparently this conclusion is drawn after about 5 minutes of knowing me. i’m just sick and damn tired of rejection.

One friend on the other hand wasn’t afraid to speak what seems like the truth. she said some people might just be destined to be alone, and that for as long as she had known me i was always bitter and jaded, and perhaps i should embrace it. Didn’t cast the cheeriest of visions, but at least she didn’t patronize me.

i guess what i’m asking is, what the hell is my problem?

Tags: dating problem, single guy