by wildcherry on Saturday, January 2nd, 2010 | Family, Love | No Comments

1) First of all, you must understand that discipline is not same as punishment. It has more to do with teaching.

2) Be strict but not abusive. It means that you have to be consistent in your discipline method, or how you punish your child.

3) Think proactive. Before you act think ahead what is the consequences of your action.

4) Talk positively with love and care to your child. This is a good motivator. Tell your child what is the consequence of his/her misbehavior. Also tell him/her that you want them to be a good child.

5) Do you like to hear constantly what you have done wrong? Most of us do not like it. Same goes for children. By telling many times that they are doing wrong will tear them down. Praise and reward them whenever they behave good. If they always misbehave think of other techniques besides tell them that they are doing wrong. It is important that in disciplining children, we build them up rather than tear them down.

6) Set up a daily routine for your younger children and try to find a way on how to stick to it every day.
I have a friend who set up a schedule for her children. Whoever misses any jobs will be marked as red and get less marks. A child who has lower marks will get less school allowance. By this way her children will try to get all their jobs done!

7) Be careful when using threats. You tend to say things you do not mean when you get angry.
Too many threats will effect your child behavior too. They will learn from you and use your words to threat other people thus leads to bad manner.

Do not offer choices for must-do routine. For example when you set routine for them to get sleep at 10 pm, then you should say “It’s time for bed” rather than ” Do you want to go to bed now?”.

9) Experts say that giving too much command or repeating the same command is not an effective discipline method. You should give a command once and if not followed, then repeat it once again and warn him of the consequences for his misbehave will be. If still not effective, then apply the consequences.

10) Sometimes it is good to have “calm down” time. It gives benefit not only for your child but also for you.
One of a popular discipline technique among parents is time-out. Time-out is a discipline technique that involves placing children in a very boring place for several minutes following misbehavior. It is an effective discipline tool when used appropriately. Make sure the place is safe for your child and no distractions.

The above guidelines are only a few of many methods to discipline your child. There are many methods but you have to know how to use them.

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by nate on Friday, January 1st, 2010 | Family, Love, Love Story, Relationship | No Comments

A British couple who divorced at leisure repented in haste and decided to remarry almost immediately.

When the final papers came through ending their marriage, Lee and Jan Jones both felt they needed a shoulder to cry on. So they turned to the people they knew best - each other.

Within hours of arranging to meet and discuss the divorce, they decided it had been a terrible mistake.

Lee Jones told the Daily Mail his Christmas Eve marriage to his ex-wife, Jan, was “the best decision we ever made.” The couple decided to tie the knot a second time Nov. 10, the day their decree became absolute, but waited for the ceremony because Christmas Eve would be “romantic.”

The 10 Jones children served as attendants for their wedding at the Southend-on-Sea registry office.

The couple married the first time in 1990 in a traditional church wedding in Southend, where they still live. Lee Jones said money problems after he lost his job as a civil engineer with Thames Water in June put a strain on their marriage. But he said the period of separation was the worst time he has ever had.

The day the divorce became final, Jan Jones called her husband and they ended up getting together for a talk.

“We were sitting at the kitchen table together and I said, ‘But I still love you,’ and he said, ‘I still love you — why are we doing it?’ We decided to give it another go,” she said.

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, December 30th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Love, Relationship | 2 Comments

01 - Don’t interrupt or correct him when he is telling a story.

02 - Compliment him in front of the children, your parents, his parents & friends.

03 - Be a concerned about your looks as you were when you were dating.

04 - Let him have sometime to relax when he arrives home from work.

05 - Develop a genuine interest in his work & hobbies

06 - Admire him for his strength & significance.

07 - If he wants to take a lunch to work, pack it for him.

08 - Try to come home & off the phone when he gets home from work & up in the morning when he leaves.

09 - Help your kids be excited about Dad coming home.

10 - Buy him some new socks & underwear on ordinary days instead of given them as gifts on hoildays or birthdays.

11 - Keep your bedroom tastefully decorated & clutter free.

12 - Understand when he wants to spend time enjoying sports or hobbies with his friends.

13 - Keep his favorite snack on hand.

14 - Stick to your budget.

15 - Watch his favorite sports events with him.

16 - Try to go to bed at the same time he does, and understand if he falls asleep in the recliner after a hard day.

17 - Trade babysitting with friends so you have some nights at home alone.

18 - Keep lovemaking fresh & exciting & remember that he probably has more frequent desires than you have.

19 - Bake some homemade cookies for him to take to work.

20 - As yourself one question every day: ” What’s it like being married to me ?”

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by nate on Monday, December 7th, 2009 | Family, Health, Indonesia, Love, Love Story, News, World | No Comments

“To help these children is a privilege for me and my wife because it’s giving back to society … giving back what has been blessed to us.”

-Budi Soehardi

They are cheerful-looking and photogenic, but close to all have a very sad story,” said Budi Soehardi, founder of the West Timor orphanage.

Soehardi, a 53-year-old Indonesian pilot living in Singapore, and his wife, Peggy, look after 47 children at the orphanage. They have a personal relationship with each one, and consider them part of their family. The couple named many of the children since they entered the orphanage as babies – some of them tiny victims and refugees from the conflict in East Timor.

Soehardi has three children of his own but says there is no difference between what he supplies for his biological children and those living at the orphanage. They all get clean living spaces, vaccinations, food, clothing and vitamins from the United States.

“Mr. Budi is like my own father,” said Gerson Mangi, 20, a resident at Roslin Orphanage. Mangi, who came to the orphanage when he was 12 years old, had no means to attend school after his parents died. Now, thanks to the educational training at Roslin and a private sponsor, he is in medical school.

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009 | Family, Love | No Comments

While at the park one day, a woman sat down next to a man on a bench near a playground.“That’s my son over there,” she said, pointing to a little boy in a red sweater who was gliding down the slide.

“He’s a fine looking boy” the man said. “That’s my daughter on the bike in the white dress.”

Then, looking at his watch, he called to his daughter. “What do you say we go, Melissa?”

Melissa pleaded, “Just five more minutes, Dad. Please? Just five more minutes.”

The man nodded and Melissa continued to ride her bike to her heart’s content. Minutes passed and the father stood and called again to his daughter. “Time to go now?”

Again Melissa pleaded, “Five more minutes, Dad. Just five more minutes.”

The man smiled and said, “OK.”

“My, you certainly are a patient father,” the woman responded.

The man smiled and then said, “Her older brother Tommy was killed by a drunk driver last year while he was riding his bike near here. I never spent much time with Tommy and now I’d give anything for just five more minutes with him. I’ve vowed not to make the same mistake with Melissa.

She thinks she has five more minutes to ride her bike. The truth is, I get Five more minutes to watch her play.”

Life is all about making priorities, what are your priorities?
Give someone you love 5 more minutes of your time today!

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by nate on Thursday, November 26th, 2009 | Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Love, Love Story, News, World | No Comments

Area volunteers help serve free Thanksgiving Day meals to needy people at Avolio’s Italian Restaurant on San Bernardino Road in Covina Nov. 26, 2009. The Avolio family sponsors the annual event. (SGVN/Staff photo by Leo Jarzomb)

The spirit of giving has never been greater at Avolio’s Italian Restaurant than it was this Thanksgiving.

Patrons donated bags full of groceries and a freezer full of turkeys in the days leading up to the business’ annual Thanksgiving dinner giveaway, said Pietro Avolio, the restaurant’s owner.

“This is the first year we didn’t have to buy anything out-of-pocket, because everything was donated,” Avolio said. “They saw our sign, asked what we needed, and brought it.”

The need for those donations has never been greater, as more people than ever came out to eat Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday, Avolio said.

“The first year, about 100 people came out,” Avolio said. “Last year about 200 people came out, and this year we served close to 300 people.”

Monica Rangel, of Baldwin Park, brought her 14-year-old son and 12-year-old daughter to the feast, after she lost her her job at Ready Pac Produce in Irwindale, she said.

“I got laid off about two months ago and it’s hard right now,” Rangel said. “I really appreciate it.”

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by nate on Thursday, November 26th, 2009 | Diary, Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Life, Love, Relationship | No Comments

I just got this from a friend, I feel that we should share the values.
“When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad.  I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I’ll never forget what he said: ‘Baby, I love burned toast.’

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, ‘Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!’.

You know, life is full of imperfect things…and imperfect people. I’m not the best housekeeper or cook.
What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults - and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences - are the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship! “

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, November 18th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Love, Relationship | No Comments

The following seven methods are guaranteed to grow your connection by improving the level of trust in a relationship.

First, you need to be predictable. This goes against the common notion that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance alive. Sure, going to a new restaurant or giving a surprise gift can be nice, but most of all, we need things to be consistent and steady in order to make our relationships work. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.

Next, you need to make sure that your words always match the message. This means that your partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you are happy but you are frowning, your partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your partner needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message, you build trust in a relationship.

Third, you need to have a fundamental belief in your partner’s competency. If you don’t you won’t have the trust in a relationship that you need. When lovingly communicated, the truth is never destructive. When you do not believe that your partner is competent at some things (or indeed, anything), you violate the trust in a relationship.

Don’t keep secrets. Secrets destroy the trust in a relationship. Be honest and open. Assume everything you know will eventually come out. Secrets require enormous energy on your part. That is energy that could be going into building the relationship.

Fifth, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what your needs are. Don’t make him or her guess what you need. Let them know. It is okay to be self-centred as long as you are not selfish. Indeed, if you are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and smother your partner.

Sixth, learn to say no. When your partner voices his or her needs that is a good thing. But you don’t need to say yes to everything. A partner cannot respect you if you never say no. Refusing to be subjugated to the other person’s will actually builds trust in a relationship.

Finally, always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt. Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain. But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for future growth. Don’t be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or questions. These become the fertilizer for growth and change. Embrace what is difficult.

When you decide to work on trust in a relationship, you are bound to encounter a little pain. But, as you work through this pain, you will not only become stronger as an individual, you will also strengthen your coupledom.

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by nate on Monday, November 9th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Love, Love Story, Relationship, Tips | No Comments

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by nate on Sunday, November 8th, 2009 | Diary, Entertainment, Family, Life, News | No Comments

Precious movie based on the Novel ‘Push’ by Sapphire (2009) showtimes are in demand.

Excitement surrounding the film Precious continues to grow as the gripping tale of a young woman’s struggle to overcome her past opens in theaters this weekend. The film’s main character is Claireece “Precious” Jones, an abused teen mother who is dark-skinned, overweight and illiterate.

Precious is about a morbidly obese illiterate teenager living in Harlem.  Her mother is a welfare-scamming foul-mouthed abusive matriarch who resented her daugther because her father “preferred” her since the age of three.  Her father? Oh yeah, he’s got AIDS and has gotten Precious pregnant for the second time.

“This movies stands to raise some issues that need lifting out of the dark,” Dr. Joy Lawson Davis, a diversity educator at the University of Louisiana-Lafayette. He continues “I say more power to the filmmakers, actors, and to Sapphire for having the courage to put this in writing.”

Both Oprah and Tyler Perry endorse Precious, although neither were involved in the movie. Among the cast is Mo’Nique and Lenny Kravitz.

Precious is being widely received as a movie that you must see.  Those interested in Precious movie showings are searching frantically for when the movie is in their area.  Some markets have to wait until November 20 to see Precious.  Some larger areas are able to see Precious starting November 6, according to the Cleveland Pop Examiner.

Precious showtimes or watching Precious free online are all options that the thousands of people wanting to see the movie are frantically searching for. For official Precious showings or Precious movie show times, visit the movie’s official Web site at weareallprecious.com.

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