by nate on Friday, February 5th, 2010 | Friendship, Love, Relationship | No Comments

The Valentine’s day, February 14th is approaching, and your sweetheart is giving a hint about flowers, chocolates, or other romantic gifts that they’d like to receive from you.

Charles Ingrum, owner of Dr. Delpjinium Designs and Events is giving his Five Rules when it comes to picking your flowers for your sweet pea.

1. It’s the thought that counts

2. Wilted petals, can wilt the love

3. Get to your local florist on the first beat

4. The message behind the bloom

read flower’s colors and their meaning

5. Let her show off her blossoms.

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by nate on Thursday, February 4th, 2010 | Friendship, Love | No Comments

The Color of friendship is a 2000 television film written by Paris Qualles, produced by Kevin Hooks and Christopher Morgan. The film based on actual events about the friendship between two girls; Mahree & Piper, one from the United States and the other from apartheid South Africa, who learn about tolerance and friendship. This might be an inspirational film to celebrate valentine 2010.

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by nate on Monday, January 18th, 2010 | Dating, Friendship, Love, Relationship | 1 Comment

1. “My ex did the exact same thing!”
Whether it’s a desirable resemblance (they both always hold the door open) or a less desirable one (neither one showers often enough), your boyfriend never wants to hear that he’s anything like your ex. Ever.

You don’t want him to feel like you’re always comparing the two of them, do you? Think about it: Do you really want him to imagine that he does other things just like your ex? Doubtful. Plus, he might think you’re still hung up on your former flame.

Either way, a comment like this won’t do much for his self-esteem. So the next time you experience boyfriend deja-vu, keep it to yourself.

2. “Helen’s pregnant … Shhhh”
Remember on Sex and the City when Carrie tells Aidan that Miranda’s pregnant but that he can’t tell Steve? Remember how upset Aidan was to hear the incriminating news? Your boyfriend doesn’t want to hear information that could get him into trouble. And even if he does want to hear it, he really shouldn’t.

Don’t burden him with someone else’s secret. And besides, if he does spill the beans, your friend is going to be mad at you, not him.

Along the same lines, he doesn’t want to hear about your friend’s yeast infections, her irregular periods or her IBS. It’s bad enough he has to hear about yours.

3. “When we’re married/have kids…”
It’s natural to fantasize about wedded bliss and the three kids you and your beau will one day spawn — you’re only human. And sometimes you might even entertain this fantasy very early on in a relationship. But unless you want to scare him away permanently, keep thoughts like these in your head where they belong.

Even if he himself has thought about your happily-ever-after future, he probably doesn’t want to hear it described out loud just yet. Wait until you’re sure you’re on the same page regarding marriage, kids, and the future of your relationship before you start prophesizing. A gut feeling probably isn’t good enough.

4. “Do You Think She’s Pretty?”
When you ask a question like this, your boyfriend knows he can’t win.

If he says “yes,” you’ll probably get jealous and upset. You might even follow up with “Is she prettier than me?” Talk about a loaded question!

Of course, if he says “no” (and she clearly is pretty), you’ll accuse him of being a liar. You’ll wonder what else he’s lying about, even as you assure him you don’t mind if he says “yes.” Pfff…as if you’re that insecure!

Has he managed to convince you that he genuinely doesn’t find her attractive at all? You’ll wonder what his bad taste says about you.

See?

5. “I’m fine” or “Never mind”
Your face says it all. So does the fact that you haven’t said a word in the past hour. And the way you snapped over the misplaced remote control isn’t hiding anything either. But when he asks if you’re okay, you say you’re fine. At this point, your boyfriend wants to tear his hair out.

Passive-aggressive behavior doesn’t help anyone. First, you miss an opportunity to actually address what’s bothering you. You also bottle up your frustrations and create new problems. By the time you actually try to tackle what’s really bothering you, you’re both too upset about too many things to have a constructive discussion.

6. “I just let one go”
In a man’s mind, women only use the bathroom to re-apply their lipstick (or, at the very worst, pee). They know they’re kidding themselves, but they really don’t want any physical, verbal, or olfactory indication of the contrary.

Announcing your bodily function means he can no longer blame the dog. Suddenly, you’re one of the guys, and not in a sexy, “I watch football and drink beer but I’m still a girlie-girl” kind of way.

Sure, he’ll get over it. He may even laugh about it from time to time. But he’d still prefer that it never happened. So depending on how squeamish your guy is, you might want to wait till you’re married to be disgusting.

7. “I’ll try anything once!”
Because unless you really, really, really mean it, don’t get his hopes up.

8. “Are you sure you’re okay?”
(Repeatedly. Even after he’s told you he really is okay.)

Sometimes we’re thrown off guard when our guy is uncharacteristically quiet. We’ll prod and probe, hoping to get to the bottom of their issue (and too often, we’re absolutely sure it’s something we’ve done). When in reality, there may not be a concrete reason at all.

Men have bad days too — they can be moody, tired, or just generally not feel like talking. They’re only human! As hard as it can be, don’t read into it too much. Give him his space and keep yourself busy until he snaps out of it.

Ask him what’s bothering him over and over again and the only honest answer will be “You.”

9. “I hate my thighs”
If he didn’t find you attractive, he wouldn’t be with you in the first place. Period, end of story.

Putting yourself down in front of him makes you look insecure, and just in case you didn’t know, men really hate that (see #6). Just like women, they’re usually attracted to self-confidence and put off by its opposite.

Think about it. Would you want to be with a man who constantly talked about how much he hated his calves or how he felt like a failure in his career? Uh, no way.

In addition, you’ll draw attention to flaws that he probably never even noticed before. No one else looks as closely at your body as you do. In all likelihood, you are your own worst critic. Don’t recruit him.

10. “I hate your mom”
Likewise for his friends, his siblings, his dad … even his dog.

If he really loves someone or something, don’t hate on ‘em. You may not get along perfectly with everyone in his life, but try your hardest to be diplomatic in your relationships with people he really cares about. Be open-minded about what he sees in them (things that may not be immediately obvious to you).

Maybe Deadbeat Dave is his oldest friend — the person he survived middle school with; the only person who stood by him when he lost his job a couple years back. Maybe despite his lack of attention to hygiene, he’s got a heart of gold.

If you love your man, you’ll trust his judgment.

And whatever you do, don’t ever make him pick a side. If it’s between you and his mom, you’ll lose every time.

source: shine.yahoo.com

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by nate on Friday, December 11th, 2009 | Dating, Friendship, Knowledge, Love, Love Story, Relationship, Tips | No Comments

1. Smiling coyly

2. Catching his eye and holding it for a couple of seconds

3. Fixing your hair or your outfit

4. Brushing his arm

5. Interacting with other people

6. Looking away as you kiss, hug, or greet him

7. Mimicking his movements

8. Folding your arms

9. Making steady eye contact when he’s talking

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, December 2nd, 2009 | Friendship, Love | No Comments

A true friendship is characterize as a relationship between two people and is based on admiration, respect and support.

Below is the ABC of True Friendship:

(A)ccepts you as you are
(B)elieves in “you”
(C)alls you just to say “HI”
(D)oesn’t give up on you
(E)nvisions the whole of you (even the unfinished parts)
(F)orgives your mistakes
(G)ives unconditionally
(H)elps you

(I)nvites you over
(J)ust “be” with you
(K)eeps you close at heart
(L)oves you for who you are
(M)akes a difference in your life
(N)ever Judges
(O)ffers support
(P)icks you up
(Q)uiets your fears
(R)aises your spirits
(S)ays nice things about you
(T)ells you the truth when you need to hear it
(U)nderstands you
(V)alues you
(W)alks beside you
(X)-plains things you don’t understand
(Y)ells when you won’t listen and
(Z)aps you back to reality

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by nate on Thursday, November 26th, 2009 | Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Love, Love Story, News, World | No Comments

Area volunteers help serve free Thanksgiving Day meals to needy people at Avolio’s Italian Restaurant on San Bernardino Road in Covina Nov. 26, 2009. The Avolio family sponsors the annual event. (SGVN/Staff photo by Leo Jarzomb)

The spirit of giving has never been greater at Avolio’s Italian Restaurant than it was this Thanksgiving.

Patrons donated bags full of groceries and a freezer full of turkeys in the days leading up to the business’ annual Thanksgiving dinner giveaway, said Pietro Avolio, the restaurant’s owner.

“This is the first year we didn’t have to buy anything out-of-pocket, because everything was donated,” Avolio said. “They saw our sign, asked what we needed, and brought it.”

The need for those donations has never been greater, as more people than ever came out to eat Thanksgiving dinner on Thursday, Avolio said.

“The first year, about 100 people came out,” Avolio said. “Last year about 200 people came out, and this year we served close to 300 people.”

Monica Rangel, of Baldwin Park, brought her 14-year-old son and 12-year-old daughter to the feast, after she lost her her job at Ready Pac Produce in Irwindale, she said.

“I got laid off about two months ago and it’s hard right now,” Rangel said. “I really appreciate it.”

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by nate on Thursday, November 26th, 2009 | Diary, Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Life, Love, Relationship | No Comments

I just got this from a friend, I feel that we should share the values.
“When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad.  I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I’ll never forget what he said: ‘Baby, I love burned toast.’

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, ‘Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!’.

You know, life is full of imperfect things…and imperfect people. I’m not the best housekeeper or cook.
What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults - and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences - are the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship! “

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by nate on Sunday, November 15th, 2009 | Dating, Diary, Friendship, Inspiration, Knowledge, Love, Relationship, Tips | No Comments

Do men and women speak the same language?

In a word, NO. Which explains why there are so many misunderstandings between the sexes. So, here are some tips from the experts that’ll give you a much better chance of being heard and understood:

• First, when it comes to compliments, men want it short and sweet. That’s according to psychologist-to-the-stars, Yvonne Thomas. Think about it. When guys win a football game, they high-five each other and dump ice water on their coach. They don’t go on and on about how good they feel. So, if your boyfriend gets promoted, don’t gush that he’ll be the next Donald Trump. Say something short and to the point, like “You really deserve that promotion!”
• Then, when a problem comes up, women like to discuss it. Men would rather skip the chitchat and find a fast fix. That’s from Bill Lampton, Ph.D. and author of The Complete Communicator. So, if your husband gets fired, don’t ask how he feels, or ask if he expects to still be working in that field in 5 years. Ask a few concrete questions like, “Did you really like that job?” And then suggest a specific action – like, can you help update his résumé.
• Another thing men don’t understand about women is the crying thing. For guys, only a major tragedy deserves tears. But women cry for lots of reasons - frustration, fatigue, anger, sadness, empathy, and even happiness. So, if you drench the floor in guava juice and burst into tears, he’ll consider it a huge overreaction. That’s from David Coleman, author of Making Relationships Matter. So, how do you make it better? Tell him why you cried – it’s really tension from the office. And tell him how he can help – by running to the corner store for mint chip ice cream.

source: tesh.com

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by nate on Monday, October 26th, 2009 | Dating, Friendship, Love, Tips | No Comments

KISS:

1. Kiss on the Forehead: We’re cute together

2. Kiss on the Cheek: We’re friends

3. Kiss on the Hand: I adore you

4. Kiss on the Neck: I want you, now

5. Kiss on the Shoulder: You’re perfect

6. Kiss on the Lips: I Love You

GESTURE:

1. Holding hands: We definitely like each other

2. Holding you tight pressed against each other: I want you

3. Looking into each other’s eyes: I like you, for who you are

4. Playing with hair: Let’s fool around

5. Arms around the waist: I like you too much to let go

6. Laughing while kissing: I am completely comfortable with you

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by nate on Monday, October 19th, 2009 | Friendship, Love, Love Poems, Love Story, Relationship | 6 Comments

I received this on my email, I can’t validate its honesty of the story, but what I am about to share is that I’m amazed of what the couple did…

The girl in the picture is Katie Kirkpatrick, she is 21 . Next to her, her fiance, Nick, 23.

The picture was taken shortly before their wedding ceremony, held on January 11, 2005 in the US .

Katie has terminal cancer and spend hours a day receiving medication.

In the picture, Nick is waiting for her on one of the many sessions of chemo to end.

In spite of all the pain, organ failures, and morphine shots, Katie is going along with her wedding and took care

of every detail. The dress had to be adjusted a few times due to her constant weight loss

An unusual accessory at the party was the oxygen tube that ketie used throughout the ceremony and reception as well.

The other couple in the picture are Nick’s parents. Excited to see her son marrying his high school sweetheart.

Katie, in her wheelchair with the oxygen tube , listening a song from her husband and friends

At the reception, katie had to take a few rests.The pain do not let her to be standing up for long periods

Katie died five days after her wedding day. Watching a women so ill and weak getting married and with a smile on her face makes us think….. Happiness is reachable, no matter how long it last. We should stop making our lives complicated.

Life is short

Break the rules

forgive quickly

kiss passionately, love truly

laugh constantly

And never stop smiling

no matter how strange life is

Life is not always the party we expected to be

but as long as we are here, we should smile and be grateful.

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