Communication

What Women’s Body Language Means To Men

by nate on Friday, December 11th, 2009 | Dating, Friendship, Knowledge, Love, Love Story, Relationship, Tips | No Comments

1. Smiling coyly

“If you smile subtly — without showing your teeth — while your eyes are slightly narrowed, you’re telling a guy that you want to get to know him better,” James says. This signal is best used when you first meet someone.

2. Catching his eye and holding it for a couple of seconds

This is the most powerful weapon in your body-language-flirting arsenal, says Judi James, author of “The Body Language Rules: A Savvy Guide to Understanding Who’s Flirting, Who’s Faking, and Who’s Really Interested.” “If you hold his gaze for just a half second longer than the usual split-second gaze, and then you look down and back at him, it tells the guy that you’ve considered him and you like what you see,” James says. Try this move in a crowded bar or at a party.

3. Fixing your hair or your outfit

We do this when we’re aware that we’re being watched and we want to make sure we look our best, James says. Grooming gestures like these let him know that you’ve noticed he has checked you out.

4. Brushing his arm

This is a boundary-testing touch. “Men see this as the first gesture to physical intimacy,” James says. “You are inviting him to reciprocate and touch you in a similar way.”

5. Interacting with other people

Playing with a friend’s hair or touching a friend’s arm while you talk to him acts as a representation of how you touch. “These gestures tell a man that either he can be the recipient of your touching or he could be the one touching you in that way,” James says.

6. Looking away as you kiss, hug, or greet him

If you look around the room, at the door, or even at another guy when you say hello to a man, it tells him that you’re not that into him, says James. “You may even be on the lookout for someone else,” she adds.

7. Mimicking his movements

“Making subtle tweaks to mirror his movements shows him that you two are on the same page,” says James. Mirroring his movements may sound awkward or too obvious, but something as subtle as holding your drink at the same height as his is all it takes.

8. Folding your arms

“Classically, people see this is a barrier gesture that repels people,” James says. There are two different versions, each with its own meaning. “If your arms are folded in a self-hug, so that your hands touch your rib cage, it can imply that you’re feeling insecure or bored,” she says. “If your arms are folded so that your hands are on your biceps, you’re telling him that you’re not interested in talking.”

9. Making steady eye contact when he’s talking

“Giving him 100-percent eye contact when he’s talking, while also nodding to show that you’re listening, tells him that you value what he has to say,” James says. But you should look away briefly when you’re talking. “Too much prolonged eye contact when you speak can look intimidating or even dishonest.”

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What Is Your Guy Really Saying when He Says “I’ll Call You”?

by nate on Monday, November 9th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Love, Love Story, Relationship, Tips | No Comments

guy on the phone

Ladies, it’s time to translate a few “man-phrases” for you. Like, what a man means when he says, “I’ll call you.” The translations come from Steve Santagati, a relationship expert from “The Today Show”:

Okay, so when a guy says, “I’ll call you” – what he means is “I may call you.” Santagati says a man will definitely ask for your phone number if he likes you, but he could also just be looking for quick way to end the conversation. So, don’t count on getting a call.
If a man says, “I’ve been busy lately,” it could mean two things. Santagati says, if you’ve been dating less than six months, it means, “I’ve lost interest in you.” If you’ve been dating longer, it means, “I like you, but I also need to focus on other things.” Bottom line: You may be a big part of his life – but he’s also got a job, friends and family, too.
When a guy says, “I need some space,” what does he mean? “This relationship is moving too fast.” It could also mean: “It’s over.” Santagati recommends asking if he still wants to date you. If he says “yes,” turn back the clock to early courtship behavior where he calls to ask you out on dates. Also, spend time with your friends, take classes, and pursue your own interests. That way, you’re not so dependent on him.
When a man says, “I love spending time with you.” He actually means, “I love you – I think.” Santagati says that just saying the word “love” may be his ways of dipping his toe in the “I love you” waters to see how it feels. So, don’t make a big deal out of it.
Finally, when a guy says, “I want this to last forever” he means, “I’m really happy right now.” Santagati says that if you’re wondering if your relationship has a future, a man’s behavior is more important than his words. For example, is he physically affectionate? Does he remember the things that are important to you? Is he supportive when you need it? If you can answer “yes” to all those questions, your relationship is doing just fine.

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3 Unconscious Habits That Kill Effective Communication

by nate on Tuesday, August 4th, 2009 | Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Life, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Talking about tips of good communication, I found an article that talks about what to avoid when engaging a friendships/relationships. John M Reisinger, a writer of below’s article has made 3 common mistakes that people usually do in communicating with others. I really hope this will help us to change the bad habbit and grow in making friendships or any kind of relationships… Thanks John!

1 - Moralistic Judging of Self and Others
The aim of this habit is to prove wrongness or badness with those who violate our values and desires. Moralistic judgements often has language like “They’re selfish”, “She’s lazy”, “He’s jealous”, “That’s not smart”, “I’m offended”, “You’re rude”, “That’s wrong”, “They’re bad people”,”That’s not right”, “He’s not a good person”. More forms of judgements would be blaming, insulting, putting-down, labeling, criticizing, and diagnosing. Moralistic judgement is always about who IS what by categorizing people and their actions.

2 - Making Comparisons
Pointing out how someone is deficient or lacking in some way are the focal points when making comparisons. Other ways of making comparisons are “You always”, “He could never”, “She deserves better”, “I’ll do it myself”, “You’re not fair” , “I’ll never be like”, “It wasn’t meant to be”. Making comparisons is very concerned with rationalizing who deserves what. Determined by what happens to us and those we care for.

3 - Denying Personal Responsibility
The aim of this habit is to persuade others we aren’t responsible for our thoughts, feelings, and actions with obscure language that shifts our personal responsibility to other people. More forms of denying personal responsibility include phrases like “I have to”, “You make me feel”, “I need to”, “It’s not my fault”, “I was told to”, “I really should”, “You know I can’t”, “That’s not our policy”, “The rules say”. We deny personal responsibility when we assume a lack of choices for events and behaviors we want others to believe we were powerless to control.

Start observing your daily conversations for where these habits show up regularly. Where are they most frequent with your spouse, children, and co-workers? Where do you want others to take responsibility for your feelings? How often do you break commitments, expecting others to clean up? What company policies, rules, and managers do you blame for not being satisfied with your career? Focus on fixing the habits that no longer support your ambitions. Keep in mind there’s nothing wrong with you. It’s your habits and strategies that need your attention.

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