by Alan Murray on Thursday, March 18th, 2010 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Meeting somebody and falling in love is a special time in your life. It can be easy to fall in love but how do you keep this going? Many couples fall into a routine and take each other for granted. You think you know what your partner is thinking and rely on that. Hidden feelings or resentment can linger in any relationship.

1. Keep your promises – Not following through on commitments is something that can be a source of anger. If you can’t keep a promise then talk to your partner about this. Don’t just let it lie and assume that will not bother about it.

2. Don’t push your partner away – Share your feelings, explain any dreams or fears you have to your partner. Explain to them what you want out the relationship and were you want it to head.

3. Don’t run down your partner either in front of them or behind their back. Everybody moans about their partner, but be careful as this can be a destructive thing in a relationship. Try to keep any criticism as constructive and remember if they do change make sure you appreciate it.

4. What hidden expectations has your partner got? You need to understand what they are, some people don’t like to share them but it’s all best out in the open. Do they want children? Do they expect you to earn more? Do they expect you to get married? Talking about subjects like this will help you understand your partner more.

5. Touching and kissing – Don’t let this two very important parts of a relationship go.

6. Sex! There is no way round it sex is very important to a relationship. Getting you to talk to each other and understanding what turns them on is really important. Talking about sex can be difficult especially if it is about something that is not right. Find a tactful way of mentioning something. Remember to praise the good parts of your sexual relationship.

7. If your relationship has hit a bad patch – think about the reasons for this – can you make changes to relive the pressures that are causing the problems? What are the things that initially attracted you to each other? Go back to the basics and go on from there. If you have had children try to make sure you have time with just you and your partner are together. Get the kids off to the grandparents and go out for a special dinner. Do you have a favorite restaurant that you went to when you were courting?

8. Your partner should be your best friend – What are your partners dream and hops for the future? If your partner is down and needs picking up then this is what you need to do! Be there for them when they need you.

Alan Murray is the webmaster of the site www.baby-names.tv

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by wildcherry on Thursday, February 18th, 2010 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

It is possible to fall in love with two people at the same time. When you find that you are having feelings for two people at the same time, this can be a very difficult time. You may be having some feelings of love in the same way for these two people. This is going to be something that you will have to lay out on the table in front of you so that you can see where your feelings are coming from.

It is possible to be in a loving relationship and still find yourself having feelings for someone else. This is completely normal and it may just be temporary. Maybe this other person has done something nice for you or has shown you some kind of interest for one reason or another. This may trigger some emotional feelings towards this person and you may not understand why or how you can stop them.

There may be two people that are so very different from each other but for some reason they both have caught your attention and you like them for separate reasons. This is possible and you will have to come to terms with which one is going to be better for you. You must think about your feelings for both people and why you are having these feelings.

How do I determine which one is the right mate for me?

You may wander how you are ever going to decide between the two people. You will have to figure out which person is right for you. This will take a lot of thinking on your part. You will have to figure out what it is you want to have in life. What type of life do you want and which person will be better for you. You will have to spend some time with both of the people so that you can better determine which person you have more of a connection with.

Attraction is the main reason why people want to be together. They may have some sort of physical or emotional attraction for the other person. When this is the case, you have to dig down deeper and find out if there is another reason why you are so infatuated with this person. You will need to spend time together talking and finding out about one another so that you can better determine who is going to be best for you.

How do I make a wise decision without hurting both of them?

If you think that it is best to be open with both of the people that you are attracted to, you may find that this will end both relationships. Some may not take the news that you are in love with two people very well and they may decide to make the decision for you by ending it. If this is the case, you may have some relief knowing that the problem has now been solved and even though it is over, you may feel a little more relieved. This feeling may be one that you have anticipated for a long time.

There are some people that just decide it is impossible to choose between the two and it is a wise choice to let them both go. This is going to be a hard decision to make; however, in some cases, it is the only possible outcome. You cannot string someone along and make him or her wait for you because you cannot make up your mind. You may have a strong connection with both partners, but you know that it is wrong and you have to do the right thing.

The main thing that you need to remember is that you have to do what is best for you. It is important to make sure that you have your best interest in mind. You need to put yourself ahead of anyone else so that you can have it all and make all of your dreams come true.

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by wildcherry on Saturday, January 9th, 2010 | Dating, Love | No Comments

I hope this information will help you avoid future misunderstandings :P.

“Fine”:
This is the word a woman uses at the end of any argument that she feels she is right about, and just wants you shut up. NEVER use “fine” (or worse: “just fine”) to describe how a woman looks. This will cause you to have one of those arguments.

“Five minutes”:
This is half an hour. It is equivalent to the five minutes that your football game is going to last before you take out the trash, so it’s an even trade

“Nothing”:
This means something and you should be on your toes. “Nothing” is usually used to describe the feeling a woman has of wanting to turn you inside out, upside down, and backwards. “Nothing” usually signifies an argument that will last “Five Minutes” and end with the word “Fine.”

“Go Ahead” (with raised eyebrows):
This is a dare. One that will result in a woman getting upset over “Nothing” and will end with the word “Fine.”

“Go Ahead” (normal eyebrows):
This means “I give up” or “do what you want because I don’t care”. You will get a raised eyebrow “Go ahead” in just a few minutes, followed by “Nothing” and “Fine” and she will talk to you in about “Five Minutes” when she cools off.

“Loud Sigh”:
This is not actually a word, but is still often a verbal statement very misunderstood by men. A “Loud Sigh” means she thinks you are an idiot at that moment and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you over “Nothing.”

“Soft Sigh”:
Again, not a word, but a verbal statement. “Soft Sighs” are one of the few things that some men actually understand. She is content. Your best bet is to not move or breathe and she will stay content.

“Oh”:
This word followed by any statement is trouble. Example; “Oh, let me get that”. Or, “Oh, I talked to him about what you were doing last night.” If she says “Oh” before a statement, RUN, do not walk, to the nearest exit. She will tell you that she is “Fine” when she is done tossing your clothes out the window, but do not expect her to talk to you for at least 2 days.

“That’s Okay”:
This is one of the most dangerous statements that a woman can say to a man. “That’s Okay” means that she wants to think long and hard before paying you retributions for what ever it is that you have done. “That’s Okay” is often used with the word “Fine” and used in conjunction with a raised eyebrow “Go ahead”. At some point in the near future when she has plotted and planned, you are going to be in some mighty big trouble

“Please Do”:
This is not a statement, it is an offer. A woman is giving you the chance to come up with whatever excuse or reason you have for doing whatever it is that you have done. You have a fair chance to tell the truth, so be careful and you shouldn’t get a “That’s Okay”.

“Thanks”:
A woman is thanking you. Do not faint; just say you’re welcome.

“Thanks a lot”:

This is much different from “Thanks”. A woman will say, “Thanks a lot” when she is really ticked off at you. It signifies that you have hurt her in some callous way, and will be followed by the “Loud Sigh”. Be careful not to ask what is wrong after the “Loud Sigh”, as she will only tell you “Nothing.”

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by nate on Thursday, December 17th, 2009 | Beauty, Knowledge, Life, Tips | No Comments

A new study has actually proven that the women’s magazines were right — so long as you live in the city. But if you’re a country girl, it’s more of a case of “pretty is as pretty does.”

Researchers have found that happiness for city women is quite dependent upon physical appearance. But in the country, looks don’t count for much in terms of overall life satisfaction and happiness, according to a new study in the journal Personal Relationships.

“City women who were the most attractive got a lot of bang for their appearance buck,” says the study’s lead author, Victoria Plaut, a visiting assistant professor of psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, School of Law, and an assistant professor at the University of Georgia. “And if you were even slightly below average, you were very clearly worse off.”

When it came to women living in the country, there was no connection between physical appearance and happiness. Even more interesting — there was a slight trend in the data for women in the country to be happier if they were chubbier, Plaut says.

For the new study, Plaut and her colleagues interviewed 257 women who lived in the city and 330 from the country. The women were asked to rate their satisfaction with life, their connectedness with friends and community, and their general level of happiness. For a measure of satisfaction, they were asked to rate their lives on a scale of 1 to 10, with 1 being “worst possible life you can imagine” and 10 listed as the “best possible life you can imagine.”

To get a sense of the women’s attractiveness, researchers asked for waist and hip measurements. Other studies have shown that the ratio of waist to hips is a reliable indicator of attractiveness, Plaut explains. The lower the ratio, the slimmer the waist — and the more attractive a woman is considered to be.

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, November 18th, 2009 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Some people are born romantics and, when you see such people effortlessly being romantic and loving, it’s common to wonder why you can’t be like that with your own partner. The fact is though, that very few people are naturally romantic, it is rather a result of practice on their behalf. They have simply taken the time and made the effort to find out what their partner wants, and then found interesting and exciting ways to deliver it.

If you are not entirely sure what your partner wants, you may need to try different things at first. If you are short on ideas for ways to demonstrate your affection, try some of the following suggestions:

• Send a text message saying how much you love them
• Write and post a letter to them
• Send a romantic email and attach your favorite picture of the two of you
• Give compliments each and every time you see each other
• Always kiss them before you leave and when you return
• Kiss your partner when they are least expecting it
• Give them hugs and affectionate squeezes
• Hold hands while walking together
• Leave love notes lying around
• Phone your partner for no other reason than to say you love them
• Cook and serve a candlelit dinner
• Arrange to have an intimate lunch together
• Send your partner flowers
• Write a romantic poem and read it to your partner
• Write a list of the reasons why you love your partner and stick it on their bedroom wall
• Learn some massage techniques to use on your partner
• Call last thing at night to wish them sweet dreams

There are of course other things that you could do, but those ideas listed above are more than enough, so long as you follow them through and put your heart into them. By implementing even a few of them, your partner will be in no doubt as to how your feelings towards them.

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, October 21st, 2009 | Love, Relationship | No Comments

Unlike physical abuse, emotional abuse can be harder to identify, because emotionally abusive tendencies can slowly creep into a relationship in the form of unhealthy patterns. Emotionally abusive partners seek to manipulate you. They often don’t want to hurt you, but they’re controlling nature makes them act out in a way that is mentally and emotionally harmful.

Here are some signs that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship:

You feel that you can’t express yourself freely with your partner, or you have to “walk on eggshells.”
Your partner frequently express jealousy, and keeps you from engaging in normal interactions with the opposite sex
Your partner frequently criticizes you, humiliates you, or undermines your self-esteem
Your partner keeps you from your friends, family and support groups outside of the relationship
You caught your partner monitoring your email or internet usage
Your partner alludes to the possibility of harming you or your loved ones if you “betrayed” or left him or her
Your partner implies that if you were to leave, he or she may commit suicide or engage in other self-harm
This is by no means an exhaustive list, but simply point to some of the trends of an emotionally abusive relationship. Regarding the last bullet point — threats of suicide — it is an especially manipulative tactic. If your partner holds their potential suicide over their head, they are essentially trying to take you hostage. You need to bring in a third party if they resort to this or any other form of violence.

If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, you need to get help or get out, and you need to do it fast. Even if it never escalates to physical abuse, emotionally abusive relationships can be damaging, possibly leading to stress, depression, and even post-traumatic stress disorder.

Just like other forms of abuse, it’s common for both women and men to be victims of emotional abuse.

How to Get Out of a Potentially Abusive Relationship:

Step 1:
Decide that you deserve to have an emotionally healthy relationship. Many people stay in potentially abusive relationships because they do not believe that they deserve to be treated better. Until you believe that you deserve to be treated with respect, you are going to continue finding yourself in potentially abusive relationships.
Step 2:
Set emotional boundaries. Most abusive people seek out partners who they can push around, whether physically or emotionally. If you set and enforce emotional boundaries in your relationship, then you will no longer be appealing to a person who is potentially abusive. The relationship is more likely to fall apart on its own before it turns abusive.
Step 3:
Recognize that most potentially abusive relationships go through a honeymoon period first. If an abusive person began a relationship with hitting or demeaning his partner, then the partner would be unlikely to stick around. Instead, abusive people tend to woo their partners, treating them like queens, and then start the abusive behavior after the partner is smitten.
Step 4:
Get out at the first sign of potential abuse. Do not allow second chances for any abusive behavior. Never allow another person to hit you, demean you or do anything else that you do not want in a relationship. At the first sign of abusive behavior, walk out the door and don’t look back.
Step 5:
Seek assistance with leaving, if needed. If you are afraid to leave a potentially abusive relationship, then get assistance from others. Most communities have a battered women’s shelter that will assist you in breaking free of an abusive relationship. Talk to a clergyman about your situation. Lean on friends or you can even contact the police department for advice.
Step 6:
Leave town. If you do not feel safe after leaving a potentially abusive relationship, consider leaving town. Putting distance between you and a potentially abusive ex-partner can be the best way to keep yourself safe.
Step 7:
Find a qualified therapist with experience in counseling people who have been in abusive relationships. A good therapist can help you understand why you are attracted to abusive people and show you the way out of this cycle. Anyone who has been in an abusive relationship can benefit from therapy.

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009 | Love, Relationship | 1 Comment

There are some types of scientific proof, which can help you to further decode that actually the guy has a crush on you. Here are they:

1. When communicating with a guy, pay close attention upon their stance. A guy generally leans in a person to some extent if they are paying attention or listening intently. In addition, they position themselves, in the most pleasing or flattering way. For instance, a guy generally stand straight i.e. taller in order to make themselves look bigger.

This enables them to appear more macho before the girl they got a crush on. It is a male behavior to exhibit the female that they are physically fit and can guard her. While, if a guy is standing by crossing his arms and is shifting his body constantly, he is giving clues that either he is uninterested or uncomfortable.

2. If you want to know that a guy has a crush on you or likes you, look deep in his eyes. It is one of the easiest and simplest portals to know his deepest feelings. There is no definite single look, which tells you whether he is really smitten by you. It is that signal, which you only get to identify when you see it and a guy is not at all subtle when they have to make a eye contact with the one he has a crush.

On clue if you are boggled, he will look at you until and unless you do not look down. A guy who is interested in a female generally gazes in the eyes of the women he like for more time than normal eye interaction. This means that the guy is conscientiously trying to stare at you.

3. Does the guy change his behavior or persona towards you? Few times males get anxious and they laugh or shutter awkwardly whilst some remains quiet or some of them get loud. Every guy is unique and different in his own way for drawing the attention of a woman. It is the job a woman to distinguish the manner and the behavior he is behaving is due to your presence.

4. If you spot him more frequently then normal, he may be giving you hints that he wants to remain near you. He may be finding ways in order to approach you. Thereby if you start noticing him, more number of times than usual, might be it is the time to stop assuming that it is coincidence and the guy really has crush on you and likes you.

5. Observe how the guy acts around your friends and you, has he suddenly started acting all differently in front of you and especially your friends. Guys are well acquainted with the fact that the finest way to impress a girl is through her friends. Making a good impression in front of you friends means he is interested in you.

6. Does his nature changes according to your liking or mood, when you are in good mood, he too looks happy, when you are upset he tries different ways for making you happy indirectly or directly. If he likes you, he will give best attempts and put all his efforts in order to make you smile.

7. Finally, there are several simple hints, which any female knows about a male. He will pass a smile to you when you look at him; he will stare at you when he might be thinking that you are unaware or not looking. In addition, he will never remain busy or too full of activity to assist you with a favor where ever he can by putting his best possible efforts.

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by echandr on Monday, March 9th, 2009 | Love, Love Story | 3 Comments

Many people told many stories about LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, but I’m personally not a strong believer of this fantastic phenomenon. How could you possibly love someone just with a glance of eyes? You probably could like her/him, but definitely not love…that’s what I thought…

The other day, I bumped into a friend and he started telling me about how he has fallen in love with a gal just thru a quick meal. Fast and thundering…….

He started the story with the fact that in his entire life of 35 years, he only fell for 3 gals and falls for this recent one..at very first sight. He said he first fell for a gal in his senior high years, but never went any further for he had no guts back then. The sparks remained a while but eventually lit-off….and life moved on….

He then again fell in love with a gal in his mid 20s. One thing led to another and he came to an agreement that the relationship was not sustainable….end of story…and life moved on.

For the next decade, the sparks, just like the first two, never show up again..and he just let things slide. Why bother with relationship and attachment while one can live freely and independently, right? He heard many humours about commitments and relationships. One once told him about marriage institution is just like a “castle-like-prison” of which the singles view from the outside with awe and rush into it, while the married couples struggle very hard with every efforts trying to break out.

Then cruising into his 30s he again met a gal….she is pretty, smart and could relate well. But she moved away…and things ended before even got started…

All three gals might have given him the sparks, but never.never ..never at first sight.

And then it just happened….met a gal thru a quick meal and suddenly falling in love. He wonders if this is even real? He told me the details and asked if he should go forward. I then replied that he might be asking the wrong person of all people…well, I’m not the one who would easily believe in LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT..and moreover…I have no first hand experience on such phenomenon…but nonetheless….there is nothing impossible in life, right?

He then made a statement…LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT is when you see her/him and suddenly the sparks in your heart set the fire sensation through all your senses…and there is only one thing..and one thing only….you just want to stay close with her/him at any cost………..

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by wildcherry on Thursday, February 26th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

Here’s another set of tips for women out there.

Ok, so you’re young, hot and gorgeous.. so why hasn’t that guy you met last night called or texted you yet?

Every now and then we get to see (or if we get lucky) meet, a cute, sweet guy. Almost every girl knows how hard it is to meet a real keeper these days; someone who’s got it all – beauty and brains plus an ounce of sensitivity. In a time of crisis like this one, what’s a girl to do when that guy isn’t calling or texting yet yet?

Wait. Don’t think he’ll contact you the minute you give him your number. Some guys play it cool, so they’re not so much in a hurry to contact you. Just leave your phone alone for a while and let it ring by itself. Don’t will it.

Recall. Think. Why would he call? Just because he asked for your number last night doesn’t mean he’ll actually call you. Reality is, some guys just ask for a girl’s number in order to be polite. No offense but hey, it happens! Come on, as if you’ve never given a fake number to a guy who was not cute enough for you! If you met him at some party and he was sort of drunk, he might have forgotten where he put his phone. Or maybe he was too drunk to tell you he has a girlfriend. Or maybe he’s still drunk right now. Are we waiting still? Really?

Rethink. Okay so he was a perfect gentleman last night and really seemed sincere when he asked for your number and told you he’ll call you in the morning. If he contacts you then he keeps his word. If he doesn’t, he’s a liar. Give the verdict when you get the call… or when no call ever comes.

If, at the end of the day there’s still no call…. he’s probably calling somebody else. Get over it. You’ll meet a cuter guy next weekend.

Let go. Literally. Let go of the friggin’ phone. The guy will call when he wants and you simply can’t wait for your phone to ring all day. Your phone has the ability to ring even if you’re not touching it. So take your day’s shower, eat that lunch and go through your office work because the phone can ring whether or not it’s near your face.

The truth is, a guy who likes a girl will call that girl. You can’t just call him and say “Hey, I’m this girl you met last night and I was wondering why you haven’t called me yet…” because (do I really have to explain this?)does that sound at all like you? There are guys out there who’ll exhaust your phone. Let’s just wish he wasn’t that guy who got your fake number.

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by dcdatingdiva on Saturday, January 10th, 2009 | Dating, Love | 5 Comments

Have you ever put-off a date or postponed a date due to lack of funds? Remember the good ole’ college days where everyone was broke, so $2.00 happy hour was great and no one would get upset because you took them to a $2.00 happy hour, even if they were a two-bit…(ahem)

Well I’m here to the rescue. Don’t hang up your dating life because we are in an economic crisis. In fact, this is probably the best time to date. If someone can stick with you through the Dow’s downfall & Congress bailing out everyone and their mama, then they are a keeper. Plus it’s an excuse to be cheap and vett your dates on a budget before taking them home to meet the family!

Here are some cheap/free date ideas to help get you started on your new dating life during our modern day depression! Shawn Smith from SBMINNOVA threw in a few of his favorite as well! Happy Budget Dating!

1. Movie Night In - Skip paying for the $11.00 movie, $5.00 popcorn and $4.00 drink …instead there are these cool little red boxes in most major cities at grocery stores that will allow you to rent a movie for about a dollar a day. And since you will already be at the grocery store grab a box of microwave popcorn and a cheap bottle of wine; like the Barefoot brand. Total Cost of Date - $10.00

2. Culture – Most major cities have a free museum or a free exhibit at an Art Gallery. Grab your local city paper and circle the one’s of interest. Not only will you seem refined & cultured. Haven’t you heard…SMART is the new SEXY… Total Cost of Date - $Free

3. Throwback Date – Remember when hanging in the parking lot of (insert place here) was cool??? Ladies remember when you’d go to the recreational center/gym to check the guys out, knowing you didn’t play basketball? (The good ole college days!) Pick your favorite nostalgic hangout spot. Take your boombox (nowadays MP3 Players with speakers) and crack open a cheap bottle of Boonesfarm (2 for $5.00) and get to know each other all over again! Make use of the backseat if you must…Total Cost of Date - $5.00

4. Dinner for Two – Ok, so you’re not ready to invite him/her to the pad yet. Not ready to show your Wolf Gang Puck cooking skills. Don’t fret. You can still have dinner really cheap and it doesn’t have to be Romen Noodles and PBJ. Cool places to go include Mom & Pop places or places off the “beaten track”. In DC one of my favorite good cheap eat places is Sweet Mango Café. They always give you a decent sized portion. Enough for sharing! Other fairly cheap places to check out in DC include (The Tandoori Grille, Julia’s Empanada’s, The Diner, Ben’s Chili Bowl, Sticky Rice…and anything else that has more than 5 entrée’s for under $10.00). – Total Cost of Date - $20 or less

5. The Scenic Route – Feeling a little romantic? Is the weather nice out? Does your city have a scenic river overlook? As long as it’s safe and you aren’t breaking any indecent exposure or trespassing laws, get a bottle of wine, some cheese & grapes and watch the sunset. Don’t forget the blanket! And remember fellas, don’t be too cheesy…just the right amount will get you there! – Total Cost of Date - $15.00

6. Get Sweaty Together – No, not in the bedroom…well, I’m not opposed to it, but another great way to get the juices flowing is at the gym. There’s nothing hotter than working out together. Once you get your heartrate up, you’ll feel sexy, sweaty & ready to take on the world…or some after gym action??? (Go online to get free 1-Day gym passes from a local gym) – Total Cost of Date – Free

7. Shut Up & Drive – I’ve never done this, but it’s not a bad idea, test-drive your dream car. Pretend you just hit the lottery or you’re filthy rich and go test drive your favorite car. Did I hear someone say Aston Martin???? Total Cost of Date - Free

8. Happy Hour – In a city where Happy Hours are trendy, you’ll never look cheap when you take your date for free drinks before 8 and half-priced appetizers. One up them and take care of the tips the whole night! Total Cost of Date - $10-$20

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