by bintangkecil on Saturday, November 14th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

According to a new study, a person’s physical appearance allows others to form surprisingly accurate first impressions. So you may want to think twice about what kind of image you’re projecting with these traits dudes check out immediately.

1. Your Smile

Does it seem sweet and genuine? Does it seem awkward and forced? Does it seem like you ate a sesame-seed and parsley salad for lunch based on what’s lodged between every single one of your teeth?

2. Your Hair

Guys have no idea what split ends are, and if you mention roots, they just think of the band. But they do look to see if your hair looks 1. soft and 2. as though it would smell good. So don’t request “The Gosselin” at the salon, and wash it every so often. That’s all guys ask.

3. Your Cleavage

Newsflash: Dudes like to look at your chest. Now, that’s not to say they think all women should unbutton their shirts to their bellybuttons at funerals. (Though really, who are guys to judge?) But they will notice how you’re showing off what you’ve got.

4. Your Makeup

If you’re wearing so much makeup that it looks like you’ve painted an entirely new face on top of your actual face, guys will wonder if you’re trying to cover up some bizarre deformation—or if you’re Gotham City’s most dangerous criminal mastermind.

5. Your Skin

You know that blemish you’ve been obsessing over all day because it’s so huge? Chances are guys won’t even notice. What will they notice? If you look like a jaundiced Oompa-Loompa because of overenthusiastic tanning.

6. Your Bag

Are all women who haul around big purses—in other words, cavernous rucksacks stuffed full of old receipts, emergency sweaters, and half-used bottles of hand sanitizer—high maintenance? Maybe not. But guys will go ahead and assume they are anyway.

Source: Cosmopolitan
Photo: SuperStock

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by bintangkecil on Friday, October 2nd, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

Getting ready for your first date?

Three Tips for the Perfect First Date

1. For a first date, the goal is to get to know each other a little. Design the date so you’ll be able to focus on each other. The environment should make it easy to have a conversation. Avoid going to a movie or a loud concert, because that’s a social blockade.

2. Don’t hide behind an event. Make the environment a backdrop, not the focus. Put your personality out there without distractions. Dramatic first dates are a cop-out. The event takes the focus off the people. Thankfully, the economy has neutralized your ability to hide behind your wallet. You have to go back to basics: effort and charm.

3. Always schedule the first date for the daytime. The nighttime has a lot of romantic connotations, and you feel almost forced to be sexy and cool. But going out during the daytime is more relaxed.

Perfect First Date: Bowling
Why it works: It’s a casual, public environment and an activity almost everyone can do (and almost nobody is an expert). You can talk, sit and eat, and you’ll probably end up laughing. It’s low pressure and easy, with nothing to detract from getting to know each other.
Alternate options: A weekend brunch can’t be beat. It’s casual, not loud, a little more relaxed than dinner so you have time to talk. It takes the pressure off what to wear. Plan a picnic or explore a new part of town.

Three Tips for the Perfect Next Date

1. When you’re ready for things to progress (toward the first kiss, perhaps?), make the date a little sexier. The locale should be quieter and allow even more focus on getting close.

2. Switch to nighttime, which automatically makes any date sexier. It increases the intimacy and the chances you’ll get a good-night kiss.

3. Don’t go overboard on the sexiness. Start with an intimate group setting so your date won’t be uncomfortable. You want to be able to switch between interacting with others and being in your own world.

Perfect Next Date: Museum Event
Why it works: Many museums are now having lectures or music on Friday evenings, with cocktails and hors d’oeuvres. It’s the perfect venue to converse, commune and snuggle a bit. You’ll have a built-in topic of conversation and can share your thoughts on the evening’s events as a deeper way of getting to know each other.
Alternate options: Go to a sushi restaurant, a cabaret or to hear some jazz. Or pick a lounge where you can dance in the crowd and then go off in a corner and get away.

Rule for the “Next Level” Date

If you want to give the message that you’re a couple, plan a date that’s thoughtful and intimate. Plan a day away at a spa with a couple’s massage. That gives the message that you’re in tune with each other. Or bring your date home and cook a meal. That’s the best way to give the message. Another option is to pick something your date loves and plan a day so you can share it.

Three Tips for Making Any Date Perfect

1. Always have an alternate plan that you can easily jump into if surroundings don’t pan out — like when the local fourth grade is having an event at the bowling alley — or in case your date responds poorly to your plan.

2. When you’re going to try something new, be prepared for it not to go the way you wanted it to go. Get into it and be positive. Don’t make your expectations too rigid.

3. Be able to laugh. Don’t take it too seriously (even if you put tons of effort into it). Dating is trial and error, and it’s supposed to be fun.

Source: MSN

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by wildcherry on Tuesday, August 25th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

There are many firsts that can happen in our life. For the most part, firsts in our lives are very memorable. Sometimes they can be a positive memory or they can be a memory that you wish you could forget. One such opportunity that could be a memorable first or one that can be looked upon as disastrous is the first date.

So below I listed some topics that you should NEVER touch during your first date:

1. How much time you spend in the couch watching TV (ie. sports, reality shows, drama series, etc)
2. How much time you spend in the couch playing video games
3. How much time you spend in front of the computer browsing @ online dating sites ie. Match.com, Eharmony, MySpace, Facebook, Friendster and Yelp!
4. How much time you spend watching porn or the kind of porn you watch
5. How little time you spend in the shower
6. How many times you’ve been in jail
7. Explaining a Calculus equation or any scientific formulas
8. How much you miss your ex
9. Your weight and how much you miss your six pack
10. How many women/men you’ve slept with
11. Lets review - basically just show up, let her eat, DON’T say anything…pay and repeat for next date

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by bintangkecil on Tuesday, August 18th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

You had a great couple of first dates, but then nothing.

What went wrong? Here are a few reasons why she may not be that into you.

You made yourself presentable with a fresh shave and crisp shirt. You opened the car door, pulled out her chair at the restaurant, and let her order first. The conversation flowed naturally and there were even a few laughs that didn’t seem awkward or forced. But she’s just not into you.

What went wrong? Whether it’s a first date or a long-term relationship, when it comes to women here are five reasons she’s just not that into you.

You don’t have Ambition

It sounds simple but it’s often overlooked: women are attracted to men with ambition. Perhaps it’s a survival technique, a woman wants a man who’s going to be able to take care of himself, let alone a family. Or perhaps it’s just really attractive for a potential partner to have goals, dreams and aspirations. It’s not about having money, you can be wealthy and still lack ambition, it’s about having drive and looking forward and toward the future. Start volunteering, go back to school, set goals for yourself and have something to look forward to everyday—a purpose.

You don’t Follow Through

Whether you don’t know how to make plans or you just don’t know how to stick to them, a woman hates having to make an excuse for her partner. If you’re constantly nixing dinner plans at the last minute or showing up late for date night, she’s not going to be into you. Think about it the next time you’re hours overdue with no good reason at all. Chances are, she rushed home from work, rifled through her closet to find the perfect outfit, and stressed that she wouldn’t be finished blow-drying her hair in time for your knock on the door. So when you show up two-hours late, with no preemptive phone call, she’s going to be mad. But when you do it consistently, she’s going to move on.

You Give her too Much or too little Attention

It’s like the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears, its got to be just right. Meeting at a friend’s house party is not a date. Inviting her to dinner and then inviting your old fraternity brothers also is not a date. If you care more about your “bromance” than your romance, it will show and she’ll know. A woman wants to feel special, take her out on a real date, turn the cell phone off and make her feel like she’s the only person that matters. Conversely, if you’re the type of guy who hates it when she wants a girl’s night out, or you don’t give her any breathing room, she’s going to feel suffocated in the relationship and she’s just not going to be into you.

You’re just not her Type

Yes, all women have a type. These aren’t necessarily physical looks but innate personality traits. That doesn’t mean she’ll only date one type of man for the rest of her life but it’s rare that at the same time a woman is attracted to the family man who likes spending nights in watching reruns, she’ll also be attracted to the single-until-he-dies night owl, who’s idea of a good meal is any 24-hour restaurant. If you’re not the type for her at the stage in her life, she’s just not that into you.

You don’t see her as an Equal

A woman wants a relationship where she is an equal—and feels like one. The best relationships embrace each partner’s strengths, and each person complements the other. It’s clear to see: she just won’t be that into you if you’re constantly trying to one up her.

Source: eharmony.com

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