by bintangkecil on Saturday, November 14th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

According to a new study, a person’s physical appearance allows others to form surprisingly accurate first impressions. So you may want to think twice about what kind of image you’re projecting with these traits dudes check out immediately.

1. Your Smile

Does it seem sweet and genuine? Does it seem awkward and forced? Does it seem like you ate a sesame-seed and parsley salad for lunch based on what’s lodged between every single one of your teeth?

2. Your Hair

Guys have no idea what split ends are, and if you mention roots, they just think of the band. But they do look to see if your hair looks 1. soft and 2. as though it would smell good. So don’t request “The Gosselin” at the salon, and wash it every so often. That’s all guys ask.

3. Your Cleavage

Newsflash: Dudes like to look at your chest. Now, that’s not to say they think all women should unbutton their shirts to their bellybuttons at funerals. (Though really, who are guys to judge?) But they will notice how you’re showing off what you’ve got.

4. Your Makeup

If you’re wearing so much makeup that it looks like you’ve painted an entirely new face on top of your actual face, guys will wonder if you’re trying to cover up some bizarre deformation—or if you’re Gotham City’s most dangerous criminal mastermind.

5. Your Skin

You know that blemish you’ve been obsessing over all day because it’s so huge? Chances are guys won’t even notice. What will they notice? If you look like a jaundiced Oompa-Loompa because of overenthusiastic tanning.

6. Your Bag

Are all women who haul around big purses—in other words, cavernous rucksacks stuffed full of old receipts, emergency sweaters, and half-used bottles of hand sanitizer—high maintenance? Maybe not. But guys will go ahead and assume they are anyway.

Source: Cosmopolitan
Photo: SuperStock

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, September 9th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

Conversation starters can literally save your life on a first date.

Why?

Well, as you know, going on a first date can be very scary and intimidating. Our minds are overcome with fear and insecurities and we cave in to those emotions.

We’re scared of being rejected, we’re afraid of failure, we’re nervous about saying the wrong thing at the wrong time and we’re anxious about what our date will think of us.

All these anxieties are totally human and completely understandable - but they produce devastating results: they paralyze us and greatly inhibit our ability to behave normally and confidently like we do with our family and with our closest friends.

Our personal fears lead us to the most uncomfortable situation where we feel a terrible lack of confidence, all stressed out, angry and frustrated. The bottom line is that we’re doomed to end up in the most annoying, embarrassing and even humiliating situation, which we all know as that “awkward silence”.

Believe it or not, most of us do have the capacity to carry on a fluid, easy-going and enjoyable conversation with people we have known for years - so, with the right approach, it shouldn’t be any different with the woman we’re on a first date with.

And the right approach is… conversation starters!

Preparing a list of topics and questions that you can use on the first date can do wonders for your dating skills.

When you have an arsenal of conversation starters - it’s very easy to keep the conversation going.

You always have something to say, you develop a lively conversation like there’s nothing to it, you’re not nervous, “stuck” or “blocked” and you can avoid the awkward silence disaster pretty easily.

Here are 10 conversation starters that you can use on your next first date:

·Has any book had a major impact on you?

·What was the best bargain you ever found?

·What’s the most annoying thing someone could do on a first date?

·What’s the most unusual thing you know how to do?

·Is there anything you can’t say “no” to?

·What food could they not pay you enough to eat?

·Who are your cult heroes? Why?

·What was the craziest thing you ever did when you were a kid?

·If you could have any job in the world, what would it be?

·What would be the title of your biography?

There are so many conversation starters that can work for you fantastically. They can serve as a great base for a flowing, lively, enjoyable conversation that can let your date learn about the “real you” while you leave all the pressure, anxiety and fear behind you.

Don’t leave home to go out on a first date empty-handed. Sit down, prepare some great conversation starters, memorize and practice them and your chances for a great date will increase drastically

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by wildcherry on Tuesday, August 25th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

There are many firsts that can happen in our life. For the most part, firsts in our lives are very memorable. Sometimes they can be a positive memory or they can be a memory that you wish you could forget. One such opportunity that could be a memorable first or one that can be looked upon as disastrous is the first date.

So below I listed some topics that you should NEVER touch during your first date:

1. How much time you spend in the couch watching TV (ie. sports, reality shows, drama series, etc)
2. How much time you spend in the couch playing video games
3. How much time you spend in front of the computer browsing @ online dating sites ie. Match.com, Eharmony, MySpace, Facebook, Friendster and Yelp!
4. How much time you spend watching porn or the kind of porn you watch
5. How little time you spend in the shower
6. How many times you’ve been in jail
7. Explaining a Calculus equation or any scientific formulas
8. How much you miss your ex
9. Your weight and how much you miss your six pack
10. How many women/men you’ve slept with
11. Lets review - basically just show up, let her eat, DON’T say anything…pay and repeat for next date

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by bintangkecil on Tuesday, August 18th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

You had a great couple of first dates, but then nothing.

What went wrong? Here are a few reasons why she may not be that into you.

You made yourself presentable with a fresh shave and crisp shirt. You opened the car door, pulled out her chair at the restaurant, and let her order first. The conversation flowed naturally and there were even a few laughs that didn’t seem awkward or forced. But she’s just not into you.

What went wrong? Whether it’s a first date or a long-term relationship, when it comes to women here are five reasons she’s just not that into you.

You don’t have Ambition

It sounds simple but it’s often overlooked: women are attracted to men with ambition. Perhaps it’s a survival technique, a woman wants a man who’s going to be able to take care of himself, let alone a family. Or perhaps it’s just really attractive for a potential partner to have goals, dreams and aspirations. It’s not about having money, you can be wealthy and still lack ambition, it’s about having drive and looking forward and toward the future. Start volunteering, go back to school, set goals for yourself and have something to look forward to everyday—a purpose.

You don’t Follow Through

Whether you don’t know how to make plans or you just don’t know how to stick to them, a woman hates having to make an excuse for her partner. If you’re constantly nixing dinner plans at the last minute or showing up late for date night, she’s not going to be into you. Think about it the next time you’re hours overdue with no good reason at all. Chances are, she rushed home from work, rifled through her closet to find the perfect outfit, and stressed that she wouldn’t be finished blow-drying her hair in time for your knock on the door. So when you show up two-hours late, with no preemptive phone call, she’s going to be mad. But when you do it consistently, she’s going to move on.

You Give her too Much or too little Attention

It’s like the story of Goldilocks and the Three Bears, its got to be just right. Meeting at a friend’s house party is not a date. Inviting her to dinner and then inviting your old fraternity brothers also is not a date. If you care more about your “bromance” than your romance, it will show and she’ll know. A woman wants to feel special, take her out on a real date, turn the cell phone off and make her feel like she’s the only person that matters. Conversely, if you’re the type of guy who hates it when she wants a girl’s night out, or you don’t give her any breathing room, she’s going to feel suffocated in the relationship and she’s just not going to be into you.

You’re just not her Type

Yes, all women have a type. These aren’t necessarily physical looks but innate personality traits. That doesn’t mean she’ll only date one type of man for the rest of her life but it’s rare that at the same time a woman is attracted to the family man who likes spending nights in watching reruns, she’ll also be attracted to the single-until-he-dies night owl, who’s idea of a good meal is any 24-hour restaurant. If you’re not the type for her at the stage in her life, she’s just not that into you.

You don’t see her as an Equal

A woman wants a relationship where she is an equal—and feels like one. The best relationships embrace each partner’s strengths, and each person complements the other. It’s clear to see: she just won’t be that into you if you’re constantly trying to one up her.

Source: eharmony.com

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by dcdatingdiva on Tuesday, February 3rd, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

Let’s face it, first dates can be the best thing ever…or they could be the worse thing ever. First dates lead to first kisses, second dates and even exclusive dating. Here are my top five sexy first date ideas to make sure you have a sexy, fun, fabulous first date!

5. Horse Back Riding - If you can get past the smell of the horses and stables, horse back riding can be sexy. Opt for riding along the beach at sunset, or going in the morning and stopping for a picnic. Make sure you include chocolate covered strawberries & champagne in the picnic basket!

4. Shooting Pool - Although loud bars and pool halls don’t sound sexy, just watching your date bend over the table will drown out all of the noise!

3. Cooking/Baking - There’s something about making food that can be a turn on! A lot of places offer private lessons. Afterwards you can have a food fight or just opt to rub food all over each other. Whatever you do, don’t forget your sexy apron!

2. Boat or Canoe Ride - If you don’t get sick at the first sign of wavy water, taking a ride along a scenic river can be relaxing, sexy, and romantic. Take a portable radio for soft music, a blanket for cuddling and a fully stocked picnic basket. Just don’t rock the boat too much!!!

1. Salsa Dancing - Dancing is sexy. Salsa dancing is even sexier! A lot of places offer free lessons. After you get your blood flowing with your sexy salsa moves, head to the bar to end the night with Margarita’s.

What are your favorite sexy first dates?

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by dcdatingdiva on Wednesday, January 7th, 2009 | Dating, Love | 5 Comments

I decided to come up with a funny, yet entertaining list of my “Top 10 First Dates Besides Dinner & a Movie”!!! Whether you choose one or all 10, make sure to make the most of your first date, relax, have fun, and meet in a public place! Happy Dating!!!

10. Ice Skating, roller skating or bicycling. - Even if you have never done any of these, it’s a great way to break the ice, get exercise, and to see if your date doesn’t take himself- or herself too seriously. We know most of us are bound to fall a few times, but can you laugh at yourself afterwards!!!

9. The Park - When it’s nice outside, and you have so many beautiful places to go in DC, the park can be a wonderful place. Take a blanket, some snacks, and enjoy. If you and your date aren’t making a connection, say something like ” I heard it’s going to storm today, maybe we should leave…and beat the storm.”

8. A Sporting Event - You have a ton to choose from, especially if you are a die-hard Wizards or Redskins fan. Sporting events are a great way to see if you are compatible, especially if you’re a sports freak…you can weed out the non-sports freaks with one date. Just don’t take your date to a baseball or hockey game. I’ve seen too many people get hit with flying pucks and baseballs…you wouldn’t want your date to end up with a black eye would you? or would you???

7. Dessert - I said besides dinner and a movie!!! Dessert can be fun with the right person. You can even make it sexy and feed each other. Just don’t get whipped cream topping items… or if you do, use them at your own discretion!

6. Museum - There are a ton of FREE museums in DC. You can look like you’re trying to be intellectual when you are really being cheap or are just broke. Your date will either think you are extremely progressive and smart or boring….either way you can’t lose because it’s FREE!!!

5. Happy Hour - If you are really trying to be cheap, there are a ton of free happy hours that offer free wine and snacks, as a ploy to get you in and spend more money. Just stick to the free stuff unless you are trying to impress your date!!!

4. Shooting Pool or Bowling - The good thing about Pool halls, is you can talk, drink, and watch your date bend over the table (that’s if you are really into him or her). If not, then maybe you should bowl. Either way, it’s a fun way to get your juices flowing and to have a little friendly competition. (i.e. if I make this shot you have to give me a kiss or buy me a shot)

3. Amusement Park - Although the really good one’s are far away, it’s a great way to scream, and act scared, and say stupid stuff like “no, that wasn’t me, it was the kid behind me, I swear!!!” I’m a big fan of Roller Coasters & bad Fair food.

2. A Walk - Walks can be cute and romantic. You can window-shop, stop & get food, and talk and learn a lot about each other. Just make sure you aren’t wearing 4inch stiletto’s (this goes for the guys too!)

1. Your Favorite Thing - Whatever it is that you like to do, do it. You may have more fun doing what you enjoy on a date, which may cause you to loosen up & relax. Whatever you do or wherever you go be safe and have fun!!!!

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by wildcherry on Friday, October 10th, 2008 | Dating, Love | No Comments

For those of you who have done this before, it doesn’t have to be so bad. For those of you who have never before had the chance to tread in such unchartered waters, don’t be so afraid, it is possible to come out alive. It may actually be a pleasant experience allowing you to reap many rewards.

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