by Alan Murray on Thursday, March 18th, 2010 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Meeting somebody and falling in love is a special time in your life. It can be easy to fall in love but how do you keep this going? Many couples fall into a routine and take each other for granted. You think you know what your partner is thinking and rely on that. Hidden feelings or resentment can linger in any relationship.

1. Keep your promises – Not following through on commitments is something that can be a source of anger. If you can’t keep a promise then talk to your partner about this. Don’t just let it lie and assume that will not bother about it.

2. Don’t push your partner away – Share your feelings, explain any dreams or fears you have to your partner. Explain to them what you want out the relationship and were you want it to head.

3. Don’t run down your partner either in front of them or behind their back. Everybody moans about their partner, but be careful as this can be a destructive thing in a relationship. Try to keep any criticism as constructive and remember if they do change make sure you appreciate it.

4. What hidden expectations has your partner got? You need to understand what they are, some people don’t like to share them but it’s all best out in the open. Do they want children? Do they expect you to earn more? Do they expect you to get married? Talking about subjects like this will help you understand your partner more.

5. Touching and kissing – Don’t let this two very important parts of a relationship go.

6. Sex! There is no way round it sex is very important to a relationship. Getting you to talk to each other and understanding what turns them on is really important. Talking about sex can be difficult especially if it is about something that is not right. Find a tactful way of mentioning something. Remember to praise the good parts of your sexual relationship.

7. If your relationship has hit a bad patch – think about the reasons for this – can you make changes to relive the pressures that are causing the problems? What are the things that initially attracted you to each other? Go back to the basics and go on from there. If you have had children try to make sure you have time with just you and your partner are together. Get the kids off to the grandparents and go out for a special dinner. Do you have a favorite restaurant that you went to when you were courting?

8. Your partner should be your best friend – What are your partners dream and hops for the future? If your partner is down and needs picking up then this is what you need to do! Be there for them when they need you.

Alan Murray is the webmaster of the site www.baby-names.tv

Tags: Dating, dating tips, Love, marriage, relationship advice, relationship tips, relationsip

by wildcherry on Wednesday, November 18th, 2009 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Some people are born romantics and, when you see such people effortlessly being romantic and loving, it’s common to wonder why you can’t be like that with your own partner. The fact is though, that very few people are naturally romantic, it is rather a result of practice on their behalf. They have simply taken the time and made the effort to find out what their partner wants, and then found interesting and exciting ways to deliver it.

If you are not entirely sure what your partner wants, you may need to try different things at first. If you are short on ideas for ways to demonstrate your affection, try some of the following suggestions:

• Send a text message saying how much you love them
• Write and post a letter to them
• Send a romantic email and attach your favorite picture of the two of you
• Give compliments each and every time you see each other
• Always kiss them before you leave and when you return
• Kiss your partner when they are least expecting it
• Give them hugs and affectionate squeezes
• Hold hands while walking together
• Leave love notes lying around
• Phone your partner for no other reason than to say you love them
• Cook and serve a candlelit dinner
• Arrange to have an intimate lunch together
• Send your partner flowers
• Write a romantic poem and read it to your partner
• Write a list of the reasons why you love your partner and stick it on their bedroom wall
• Learn some massage techniques to use on your partner
• Call last thing at night to wish them sweet dreams

There are of course other things that you could do, but those ideas listed above are more than enough, so long as you follow them through and put your heart into them. By implementing even a few of them, your partner will be in no doubt as to how your feelings towards them.

Tags: advice, affection, Dating, Demonstrate Your Affection, Love, relationship ideas, relationships, relationships tips

by wildcherry on Sunday, September 20th, 2009 | Inspiration, Life | No Comments

What most don’t know is that peace begins with us! Peace isn’t about what is going on in the Middle East, peace is how we relate to every individual we meet on a daily basis.

Beginning with our self, every relationship we have is a stepping stone to World Peace. We move outward from our center to our spouses, children, parents, siblings, family members, co-workers, supervisors, church, school, and community.

As we become more at peace within our personal worlds, we will extend that peace outward like ripples on a lake. This spiritual unity will be achieved one person at a time and permeate our world. A great new world order is unfolding and this is a good time to reflect on the past as it relates to our future. Evolve to a place where we set a tone for peaceful relations with everyone we meet? How can we evolve to these great heights, you ask? Does that sound like a fantasy? Well it isn’t, just imagine, and peace will grow.

The first part of this process is to let go. Let go of that which does not serve us or our future. Give the benefit of doubt to that which you do not understand. Love deeply and unconditionally. Love is the answer to every question. Begin with love every day and know that most people want the best out of living. Helping each other get the best out of life ensures success for all of humanity. This is a win-win scenario at its best, and a simple reframe in our thinking will help us to get there. Remember, what we send out, we get back. This is the law of quantum physics and the law of attraction.

So what happens when we are zipping along, loving everyone and along comes someone that disrupts the flow? We are only human. We don’t always see eye to eye with everyone, because we are different people even though we are connected at our roots to One Source. That said, there might be folks in our lives that we love more when we don’t get to see them very often.

Ultimately, we need a plan to help us manage our “love machine” to keep moving with the flow. Briefly stated, we need to live spontaneously, but take charge. When we get information we do not ask for, it helps to have a plan. When someone says something that triggers a move down the path of negativity, stop for a moment and regroup.

This is World Peace, one step at a time and one person at a time. Join the UN International Peace day Sept 20th!

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by wildcherry on Monday, March 16th, 2009 | Dating, Love | No Comments

Do you think you have a problem moving on from your past relationship?

Here we list eight essential things everybody must do in the early days of a break up to let the healing begin.

1. Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.
2. Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.
3. Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.
4. Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.
5. Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?
6. Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.
7. Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.
8. Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.

Mending a broken heart is not easy but it can be done. Just stick to the game plan outlined above and before you know it you’ll be just fine. Good luck!

Source:TeenAdvice

Tags: break up, break up tips, breaking up, heal the broken heart, Love

by echandr on Wednesday, March 11th, 2009 | Love, Love Story | 1 Comment

Just not long ago, I met a dear friend of mine who has been out of touch for quite some time. He has been busy with his works for years and travelling around many places in the North America for a while. He is now moving back here for another passage of journey aiming his personal goals. Taking a step back to prepare for a giant leap, so he said.

We then chatted and he told many stories of his past career, life and many other things. He has more variety of perspectives in life then he used to be. Some are interesting and some are alright. People change…and we all are.

He told me about how he has recently met a girl and personally thinks she might be ‘the one’. I know this guy for only God knows when…or I would say….long enough to know him more than others do. He is the kind of very optimistic but prudent when it comes to taking decisions in almost everything, except love. He is extremely careful with gals and loves and hardly ever take a decisive action. That’s why he is still single till date.

However, it came to my surprise that he would talk about a gal he just met a week ago. Fantastic…I suppose.

I’m personally not the kind of people who would easily believe in LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT. But the way my friend told me his story make me think it does exist. My friend has not had serious dates for more than 15 years (probably few casual dates now and then, but never strong enough to make it bonded).

If you pay close attention, one of the funniest things in life (perhaps you could put in the Funniest Home Video) when somebody is falling in love and telling you the story he just had. Many things that you wouldn’t think of…and sometimes could be a bit stupid, and he would just simply make it as if it is the best thing could happen in life…but well, what could I possibly know, right?

Bottom line is, he has found someone who could easily spark a burning fire for his heart and soul…that’s how he phrased it. Yeah…after 15 years…finally the Cherry Blossoms in Siberia…………………………

Tags: Love, Love Story

by echandr on Monday, March 9th, 2009 | Love, Love Story | 3 Comments

Many people told many stories about LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT, but I’m personally not a strong believer of this fantastic phenomenon. How could you possibly love someone just with a glance of eyes? You probably could like her/him, but definitely not love…that’s what I thought…

The other day, I bumped into a friend and he started telling me about how he has fallen in love with a gal just thru a quick meal. Fast and thundering…….

He started the story with the fact that in his entire life of 35 years, he only fell for 3 gals and falls for this recent one..at very first sight. He said he first fell for a gal in his senior high years, but never went any further for he had no guts back then. The sparks remained a while but eventually lit-off….and life moved on….

He then again fell in love with a gal in his mid 20s. One thing led to another and he came to an agreement that the relationship was not sustainable….end of story…and life moved on.

For the next decade, the sparks, just like the first two, never show up again..and he just let things slide. Why bother with relationship and attachment while one can live freely and independently, right? He heard many humours about commitments and relationships. One once told him about marriage institution is just like a “castle-like-prison” of which the singles view from the outside with awe and rush into it, while the married couples struggle very hard with every efforts trying to break out.

Then cruising into his 30s he again met a gal….she is pretty, smart and could relate well. But she moved away…and things ended before even got started…

All three gals might have given him the sparks, but never.never ..never at first sight.

And then it just happened….met a gal thru a quick meal and suddenly falling in love. He wonders if this is even real? He told me the details and asked if he should go forward. I then replied that he might be asking the wrong person of all people…well, I’m not the one who would easily believe in LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT..and moreover…I have no first hand experience on such phenomenon…but nonetheless….there is nothing impossible in life, right?

He then made a statement…LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT is when you see her/him and suddenly the sparks in your heart set the fire sensation through all your senses…and there is only one thing..and one thing only….you just want to stay close with her/him at any cost………..

Tags: Dating, Love, LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

by doctoradhi on Thursday, February 12th, 2009 | Health, Love, Relationship | No Comments

I’ve been thinking about that since few years ago when I was still a med student. And today I find an interesting article that answers my thinking, it is true -not just emotionally but medically- that your heart speaks.

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by doctoradhi on Wednesday, January 28th, 2009 | Dating, Love | 4 Comments

This gonna be my very first posting in this blog. And I choose “love ideas” as my first writing here. As I realize there is no such human being who can live without what so called LOVE. Even if you’re just hurt by your girl, no matter if you’re single, if you look inside your heart, you will find out that you just can’t live without love.

So, in upcoming couple of weeks, almost all people around the world (unless some grandparents who are more than 75 years old) will celebrate Valentine’s Day. Going out to movie together, candle-light-dinner, red and black dress code, buying some white roses, bringing box of Royce dark chocolate, are all so-last-year.

In this posting, I guarantee you that you will NEVER find old-fashioned-romantic lovely ideas, instead I will share 5 creative ideas to celebrate it (come on, guys! Think different!), yet those will still be deeply-touching-your-girlfriend, and make her say “I do..”, and feel free to give more-creative-ideas in the comment section. Maybe boncherry will give freebies for 3 most-creative-Val-day-ideas?

1. Instead of celebrating it on February 14th, book a lovely fine dinner (choose one at a 4 or 5 stars hotel) on February 13th, and say “I want it to be totally different, honey, so I pick today for celebrating V-day with you..”
2. Dress proper-but-casual! (choose colorful attires, instead of pink, or red, or black)
3. Don’t buy any chocolate, flowers, earrings, diamond ring (hmm, diamond ring boleh juga kalo cewe loe matre). Make your own 40-pages-scrap-book (yes, it means you have to start creating that NOW!), do writing, or drawing, or anything by YOURSELF. Don’t ask others’ help at all!
4. If you’re bloody rich, book half-page ads in February 14th local newpaper, and say “Honey, thanks for last night. I have a memorable moment with you.. Love, bla..bla..bla..”
5. This great idea number 5 has just bling-bling inside my head, YAY! Set up a blog, and start posting daily-count-down-expressions-of-love, and tell your woman or man that website address on February 12th, yes exactly one day before. (By doing this, I’m sure she/he will absolutely say, “Yes, I do..”)

Okay, now I’ll let you all to shout your creative ideas! Come on, this year should be a DIFFERENT and UNFORGETTABLE Valentine’s Day.

Tags: creative, Love, love ideas, v-day, valentine

by nate on Tuesday, January 6th, 2009 | Love | 2 Comments

See for yourself and make comments… or you can be speechless like me.

Christian was a lion originally purchased by Australians John Rendall and Anthony ‘Ace’ Bourke from Harrods department store of London in 1969 and ultimately reintroduced to the wild.

Rendall and Bourke (erroneously cited in various sources as Berg), with their girlfriends Jennifer Mary and Unity Jones, cared for the lion where they lived in London — until it was a year old. Christian’s increasing size and the increasing cost of his care led Rendall and Bourke to understand they could not keep him in London. When Bill Travers and Virginia McKenna, stars of the film Born Free, visited Rendall and Bourke’s furniture shop and met Christian — they suggested that Bourke and Rendall ask the assistance of George Adamson, the Kenyan conservationist who, together with his wife Joy, was the subject of their movie. Adamson agreed to help reintegrate Christian into the wild at his compound at Kora National Reserve.

Adamson introduced Christian to an older lion ‘Boy’ and subsequently to a female cub Katiana in order to form the nucleus of a new pride. The pride suffered many setbacks: Katiana was possibly devoured by crocodiles at a watering hole, another female was killed by wild lions, and Boy was injured, afterwards losing his ability to socialize with other lions and humans, and was shot through the heart by Adamson after fatally wounding a man. These events left Christian as the sole surviving member of the original pride.

Adamson continued his work, and over the course of a year the pride established itself in the region around Kora, with Christian as the head of the pride started by Boy.

Reunion with Rendall and Bourke in 1972

When Rendall and Bourke were informed by Adamson of Christian’s successful reintroduction to the wild (reported in some newspaper articles to be in 1971, and by George Adamson to be 1972), they travelled to Kenya to visit Christian and were filmed in the documentary Christian, The Lion at World’s End. According to the documentary, Adamson advised Rendall and Bourke that Christian may not remember them. The film shows the lion at first cautiously approach and then quickly leap gently onto the two men, standing on his hind legs and wrapping his front legs around their shoulders, nuzzling their faces. The documentary also shows the female lions, Mona and Lisa, and a foster cub named Supercub welcoming the two men.

A viral video of this reunion (edited from the documentary) received worldwide attention more than 30 years after the event. As of December 2008, several versions have been viewed millions of times. Various news sources have tracked down Rendall and Bourke for their current perspective on the events surrounding their life with Christian.

Reunion with Rendall in 1973

Rendall details a final, unfilmed reunion that occurred (reported in some newspaper articles to have been in 1974, and by George Adamson to have been in 1973). This reunion occurred without Bourke, and by this time Christian was successfully defending his own pride, had cubs of his own and was about twice the size he was in the earlier reunion video. Adamson advised Rendall that it would most likely be a wasted trip as he had not seen Christian’s pride for nine months. However, when he reached Kora, Christian and his pride had returned to Adamson’s compound the day before their arrival.

Rendall describes the visit he and George Adamson made:
“ We called him and he stood up and started to walk towards us very slowly. Then, as if he had become convinced it was us, he ran towards us, threw himself on to us, knocked us over, knocked George over and hugged us, like he used to, with his paws on our shoulders. ”

The second reunion lasted until the next morning. According to Rendall that was the last anyone saw of Christian.

Adamson counted the days from the late spring 1973 final reunion. He notes in his memoirs that after 97 days, he stopped counting.

source: wikipedia

Tags: berg, Bourke, christian the lion, Hug, Kiss, Lion, Love, Rendall, reunion

by vschaos on Monday, December 29th, 2008 | Dating, Friendship, Love, Relationship | 16 Comments

I am a newbee to blogging so please bare with me.

I have been somewhat friends with a girl I met through some other friends. At the time I met her she was dating another guy so I was not interested, but thought she was a very intelligent and interesting young woman. Fast forward about a year passes and I run into her again, she is single and I end up asking her out. We begin to enjoy spending time with one another and have great times each and every moment we spend together.  The bad news is now she is leaving to go off to college. We have only been dating for 3-4 months, but I still had to ask if she wanted to be my GF. The answer was no and she explained. While being so far away in college and trying to concentrate on school….she wouldnt be able to having to worry about me back here at home. So she says “At this time I have to say no for those reasons, but if it were different I would”.

So I am fine with that and think it sucks, but hey I dont regret asking or the time we spent together. Not so long ago I wanted to go on a trip here for new years, but did not want to do it alone. So I called and asked her if she would be interested when she came home for the holidays to go with me. She said sure thing she would love it and has been excited ever since to go as I have been. Since neither of us have been to this city I looked online and have made a list of places we could tour while there and have a good time. Well tonight she calls and mentions that she does not want to string me along and lead me to think she wants to be BF and GF…that she hopes I am not thinking this. My response was no I am not getting that impression…..I wanted to go on this trip and instead of going alone I asked you to come along…this way we both have an enjoyable time. She said ok that is good, etc.

So I guess my main concern is am I doing anything wrong? I do really like this girl and the only intentions I have with her are to be a good friend to her at this time and to just have fun. If something happens on down the road when she returns after school where we date again thats cool…if not that will stink, but I figure at least I put some sort of effort to stay in touch and show her a nice welcome home so to speak when she does come home.

Tags: Love, relationship