by wildcherry on Thursday, February 18th, 2010 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

The first tip for any man is to make a good impression. In your doing so, you don’t have to talk, dress or do the common things that all the Toms do to get a decent girl’s attention. Be unique, that’s all you need. Be a man of his own style. Dress decently - indecency can make one be mistaken for arrogance; watch your language - obscene language gives the impression of immaturity, being uncultured and cheap; be a man of good habits - don’t drink or smoke like any other loser.

How to make her fall in love with you? Take your time. Add some romance to your dating style.

Befriending and understanding the girl you are out to get is the next important thing. You have to understand that as a lady, she loves to be loved, adores to be adored and needs to be needed. This will move you closer to the girl and you’ll get to know what she’s into, what she likes and dislikes, and what her style is. Love is built upon friendship and it always leaves individuals better off having known each other should they break up.

A shoulder to lean on and a good friend that she can always turn to is all that a lady wants. Please don’t hesitate to be helpful and supportive. Be that friend who rekindles her zeal of hardworking and restoring hope back into her life when she looses hope. This above all other things will make you her daily vitamin simply because you bring out the best in her in terms of personality and character. In you, she’ll have found that friend whom she can open up to, share with and advice each other on the rights and wrongs, the dos and don’ts of life. Don’t forget to always be there to celebrate the good times, and to lend an ear when the girl needs you to listen as a friend.

Make the girl feel special; because she’s someone’s friend - your friend, and let her know that she too has touched your life in a unique way like no one else could. Compliment her for her company and for being there when you needed her, when you felt sad and all alone. Show appreciations for the comfort the girl offers you and for making you smile.

In your day to day talks, share your dreams, your world, and every aspect of your life with your girl. Always dream with her, build with her, and always cheer her on and encourage her. Tell your girl how you always think about her even when you try not to think about her. Let the girl know that she’s your first thing in the morning and the last thing when you go to bed at night.

Her knowing that you were thinking of her when you slipped beneath the softness of your blanket and gave in to the bliss of sweet dreams, will make her go ‘my my’ and her heart will sing your name all the year round.

Never fail to phone her, even when she least expects it. I once called some girl that I was interested in at four o’clock in the morning. When inquiring of what I was doing up so early, I told her I was in thirteenth heaven, where people think of their loved ones when they can’t sleep. Wow! First thing early the next morning, she was at my door with a king-sized hug for me.

No matter how many dates you take her, don’t make any elbow - exceeding moves after any date, just drop her home and with a friendly handshake, wish her good night. Don’t kiss her when she expects you to. Your respect as a gentleman will be earned on how patient you are with her when it comes to such matters as kissing her and accessing her inner graces.

The writing is on the wall that you want her, but you can’t have her just yet. Increase your demand. Try to show her that men are also hard to get at times. Make her realize that when she feels a little dizzy, a little tired, a little sad, a little sick, a lot bored and very much cold, she’s actually missing vitamin you. By this time, she’ll be so much into you and since love is truthful and is characterized by open and honest communication, honestly promise her your everlasting devotion, loyalty, respect, and your unconditional love for a lifetime. Prove to her that you’ll always be there for her, to listen and to hold her hand, and that you’ll always do your best to make her happy, and feel loved.

Remember, patience is the key to her heart; be like that gardener watching a fruit as it hangs on the tree, day after day admiring it, but, exercising tremendous self-discipline, neither feeling the fruit, nor pinching it, nor testing it to see if it is ready. And then, one day he holds out his hand and the fruit simply drops into it, ripe, warm and eager to be eaten.

The patience and self-control which you practice will make you more attractive and charming. This will qualify you as her daily vitamin and win you that heart hers.

I wish you to meet the girl of your dreams ASAP, make her fall in love with you, and make her feel the happiest girl in the world!

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by nate on Thursday, January 7th, 2010 | Entertainment, News | No Comments

Jesse James, reality TV star husband of Sandra Bullock, has won the latest battle in the ongoing custody feud he’s had with his ex-wife.

Sandra Bullock husband was married Janine Lindemulder and they both had a daughter together. Janine is a producer of porn movies and spent some time in jail for the charges related to tax evasion. During the time the Janine was in jail Sandra Bullock took care of the daughter.

The court also denied the Sandra Bullock husband’s previous wife the right to keep the daughter for the night except for Christmas. The court also ordered Janine to keep daughter away from her new husband who has also been charged for various crimes.

Sandra Bullock husband winning the custody rights is just a small achievement in the long list for the actress.

Movie of Sandra Bullock – The Blind Side is the first movie ever that has achieved the unprecedented success at the U.S. box office in which the lead actress is a female. The movie has also broken the record of ticket sales of the movie Julia Roberts which was an Oscar Winning movie released in 2000.

And this is not the end – Save the best for the last. She has been victorious in the category of “Favorite Movie Actress “ in the People’s Choice Awards. In 2009 Sandra Bullock was nominated for 2 Golden Globe Awards and one Screen Actors Guild Award.

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by wildcherry on Monday, December 7th, 2009 | Dating, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Women, these 20 phrases commonly use by men when they want to break up… the “aka” is what men really want to say to you.

1. “I’m just not ready for a relationship right now, but if I were… you’d be the one!”

aka:”I’m still not ready to spend the rest of my life sleeping with one person, but if I were, it might be you.”

2. “I still really care about you.”

aka: “… Just not enough to really date you or spend much time with you. But I still care!”

3. “I’d love to still be friends and hang out after all this.”

aka: “Can you hook me up with your hot friends after you get over me dumping you?”

4. “I just really need to focus on (fill in the blank… school, job, God, whatever) right now.”

aka: “I don’t think you’ll take this break-up well, but you can’t argue with this one.”

5. “I’m moving to a foreign country, but I’ll call you when I get back.”

aka: “I’ve got to get away from you, fast!”

6. “You can do so much better than me!”

aka: “And I know I can do so much better than you!”

7. “It has been so great getting to know you, but I think we need to spend time with other people.”

aka: “I’ve already met someone I’d rather spend more time with.”

8. “I’ve got a fear of commitment.”

aka: “I’ve got a fear of being tied to you for life!”

9. “I’m feeling smothered, and I just need to get some space.”

aka: “You’re way too in my business, too fast – I am ready to get you out.”

10. “The guy who marries you is so lucky!”

aka: “I just hope I’m not that lucky!”

11. “I think we need to see other people and just see what happens.”

aka: “I’m already sleeping with someone else, and I’m just telling you this before you find out.”

12. “I still want to be with you, but I just want to take a break.”

aka: “I want to try sleeping around, but keep you close in case I can’t find anyone else.”

13. “I’ve got a lot of issues I need to work on right now.”

aka: “My main issue is that I’m just not that into you.”

14. “I feel like you’re more of a friend than a girlfriend to me.”

aka: “You’re just not as cute as you were when we started dating.”

15. “I just need something more.”

aka: “I’m not sure what more is, but I’m kind of bored, and this line sounds really convincing.”

16. “I’m still not over my ex.”

aka: Ouch. This one’s probably true.

17. “I wish we’d met five years from now instead.”

aka: “I’m really not that mature right now, but I probably will be in five years, and then I could’ve made a great boyfriend/husband!”

18. “We’re just in totally different places in our lives!”

aka: “I’m in this place called I Want to Go Out Drinking, Partying, and Sleeping Around, and you’re in this place called Let’s Settle Down, and those two places don’t fit well together.”

19. “I just respect you so much.”

aka: “Please don’t tell your friends I’m a jerk, because I might want to date some of them.”

20. “I think we got too close, too fast.”

aka: “When you put your toothbrush beside mine in the bathroom, that really freaked me out.”

PS: please don’t tell men where you read this list

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by nate on Thursday, November 26th, 2009 | Diary, Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Life, Love, Relationship | No Comments

I just got this from a friend, I feel that we should share the values.
“When I was a little girl, my mom liked to make breakfast food for dinner every now and then. And I remember one night in particular when she had made breakfast after a long, hard day at work.

On that evening so long ago, my mom placed a plate of eggs, sausage, and extremely burned toast in front of my dad.  I remember waiting to see if anyone noticed! Yet all my dad did was reach for his toast, smile at my mom, and ask me how my day was at school. I don’t remember what I told him that night, but I do remember watching him smear butter and jelly on that toast and eat every bite!

When I got up from the table that evening, I remember hearing my mom apologize to my dad for burning the toast. And I’ll never forget what he said: ‘Baby, I love burned toast.’

Later that night, I went to kiss Daddy good night and I asked him if He really liked his toast burned. He wrapped me in his arms and said, ‘Debbie, your Momma put in a hard day at work today and she’s real tired. And besides-a little burnt toast never hurt anyone!’.

You know, life is full of imperfect things…and imperfect people. I’m not the best housekeeper or cook.
What I’ve learned over the years is that learning to accept each other’s faults - and choosing to celebrate each other’s differences - are the one of the most important keys to creating a healthy, growing, and lasting relationship.

We could extend this to any relationship in fact - as understanding is the base of any relationship, be it a husband-wife or parent-child or friendship! “

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by wildcherry on Wednesday, November 18th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Love, Relationship | No Comments

The following seven methods are guaranteed to grow your connection by improving the level of trust in a relationship.

First, you need to be predictable. This goes against the common notion that you need to “stir things up” to keep the romance alive. Sure, going to a new restaurant or giving a surprise gift can be nice, but most of all, we need things to be consistent and steady in order to make our relationships work. Consider that trust in a relationship is built on being reliable day in and day out.

Next, you need to make sure that your words always match the message. This means that your partner needs to hear the words which match your body language. If you say you are happy but you are frowning, your partner doesn’t hear your words, he or she sees your face and the tone in your voice. Your partner needs to be able to trust what you are saying. When the words match the message, you build trust in a relationship.

Third, you need to have a fundamental belief in your partner’s competency. If you don’t you won’t have the trust in a relationship that you need. When lovingly communicated, the truth is never destructive. When you do not believe that your partner is competent at some things (or indeed, anything), you violate the trust in a relationship.

Don’t keep secrets. Secrets destroy the trust in a relationship. Be honest and open. Assume everything you know will eventually come out. Secrets require enormous energy on your part. That is energy that could be going into building the relationship.

Fifth, don’t be afraid to let your partner know what your needs are. Don’t make him or her guess what you need. Let them know. It is okay to be self-centred as long as you are not selfish. Indeed, if you are reluctant to assert your needs, you may go overboard in the opposite direction and smother your partner.

Sixth, learn to say no. When your partner voices his or her needs that is a good thing. But you don’t need to say yes to everything. A partner cannot respect you if you never say no. Refusing to be subjugated to the other person’s will actually builds trust in a relationship.

Finally, always pursue growth. When you plant a flower, you begin by digging in the dirt. Digging in the dirt of our relationships can sometimes cause pain. But, through that pain, we prepare the soil for future growth. Don’t be afraid of turmoil, crisis, or questions. These become the fertilizer for growth and change. Embrace what is difficult.

When you decide to work on trust in a relationship, you are bound to encounter a little pain. But, as you work through this pain, you will not only become stronger as an individual, you will also strengthen your coupledom.

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by wildcherry on Thursday, September 17th, 2009 | Dating, Family, Friendship, Love, Relationship | No Comments

Words can be the most powerful motivation tool but also the most destructive weapon in the world. It reminds me of nuclear energy; it can be turn into a nuclear bomb which will create massive destruction force or you can use it to generate electricity enough to satisfy the need for millions of people.

Words can be in the form of praise and compliment but also a weapon that can hurt and leave an emotional scar in a person. For instance, rumors are able to cause a person to break down and become adversely affected because of the large number of people being involved.

When it comes to relationship, hurtful remarks and insults being hurled on a person in the fit of anger during conflicts can deeply affect the person’s psychological and emotional state. The impact of these words can be further intensified especially when it come out from a person who you are closely attached to. The emotional effect may heal over time but it can also change a person’s perception of humanity and relationships permanently.

To know the power of words, try to think back to your childhood and recall a time that someone said something to you that you’ve carried with you ever since. Was it positive or negative?

It’s important for us to keep in mind the power of speech to both inspire and inflict pain. We need to be aware of the things that come out of our mouths, to think about the words before we say them. This is especially true for parents because of how impressionable the mind of a child is. But as the incident mentioned at the start of this article points out, it is important in any environment including work.

So what can you do to help monitor your speech and choose your words more carefully? One technique is before you make a comment to or about someone, ask yourself the following three questions:
1) Is this true?
2) Is this kind? and
3) Is this necessary to say?

These questions can help you analyze what you’re going to say before it slips out of your mouth and hurts someone unnecessarily. Using these questions does not mean that you never say something that is unkind, untrue, or unnecessary. But it does mean that you will have thought about it first. Telling your spouse that you no longer love them may not be kind, but if it’s true, it may be necessary. But gossiping to a co-worker that the boss is having an affair is probably unnecessary, unkind, and possibly untrue.

Our world is full of untrue, unkind and unnecessary words that are constantly doing damage. And if we take a moment to consider our speech, we may find it possible to change what we say to carry a more positive energy - maybe we can even inspire someone!

So here’s my challenge to all of you:

Why don’t you go inspire someone today!

It can be your co-workers, your family members, your friends at schools, love ones or even strangers. Use your words to generate energy in their life!

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by nate on Thursday, July 16th, 2009 | Love, Love Story, Relationship | 2 Comments

Two males penguins, Harry & Pepper, who had a gay relationship in San Francisco for more than 6 years. They ended their relationship after Harry met Linda and became straight. Harry & Linda look happy together, and soon after Harry moved in to Linda’s territory, she laid an egg. How’s Pepper response?

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by doctoradhi on Thursday, February 12th, 2009 | Health, Love, Relationship | No Comments

I’ve been thinking about that since few years ago when I was still a med student. And today I find an interesting article that answers my thinking, it is true -not just emotionally but medically- that your heart speaks.

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by vschaos on Monday, December 29th, 2008 | Dating, Friendship, Love, Relationship | 16 Comments

I am a newbee to blogging so please bare with me.

I have been somewhat friends with a girl I met through some other friends. At the time I met her she was dating another guy so I was not interested, but thought she was a very intelligent and interesting young woman. Fast forward about a year passes and I run into her again, she is single and I end up asking her out. We begin to enjoy spending time with one another and have great times each and every moment we spend together.  The bad news is now she is leaving to go off to college. We have only been dating for 3-4 months, but I still had to ask if she wanted to be my GF. The answer was no and she explained. While being so far away in college and trying to concentrate on school….she wouldnt be able to having to worry about me back here at home. So she says “At this time I have to say no for those reasons, but if it were different I would”.

So I am fine with that and think it sucks, but hey I dont regret asking or the time we spent together. Not so long ago I wanted to go on a trip here for new years, but did not want to do it alone. So I called and asked her if she would be interested when she came home for the holidays to go with me. She said sure thing she would love it and has been excited ever since to go as I have been. Since neither of us have been to this city I looked online and have made a list of places we could tour while there and have a good time. Well tonight she calls and mentions that she does not want to string me along and lead me to think she wants to be BF and GF…that she hopes I am not thinking this. My response was no I am not getting that impression…..I wanted to go on this trip and instead of going alone I asked you to come along…this way we both have an enjoyable time. She said ok that is good, etc.

So I guess my main concern is am I doing anything wrong? I do really like this girl and the only intentions I have with her are to be a good friend to her at this time and to just have fun. If something happens on down the road when she returns after school where we date again thats cool…if not that will stink, but I figure at least I put some sort of effort to stay in touch and show her a nice welcome home so to speak when she does come home.

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by nate on Wednesday, December 3rd, 2008 | Family, Friendship, Inspiration, Knowledge, Life, Love, Relationship | 2 Comments

Photography Sotha Bourn

“Gift giving has long been a favorite subject for studies on human behavior, with psychologists, anthropologists, economists and marketers all weighing in. They have found that giving gifts is a surprisingly complex and important part of human interaction, helping to define relationships and strengthen bonds with family and friends. Indeed, psychologists say it is often the giver, rather than the recipient, who reaps the biggest psychological gains from a gift. Frustrated by crowds, traffic and commercialism, people can be tempted at this time of year to opt out of gift giving altogether. A 2005 survey showed that four out of five Americans think the holidays are too materialistic, according to the Center for a New American Dream, which promotes responsible consumption.

But while it’s reasonable to cut back on spending during the holidays, psychologists say that banning the gift exchange with loved ones is not the best solution. People who refuse to accept or exchange gifts during the holidays, these experts say, may be missing out on an important connection with family and friends.”

The social value of giving has been recognized throughout human history. For thousands of years, some native cultures have engaged in the potlatch, a complex ceremony that celebrates extreme giving. Although cultural interpretations vary, often the status of a given family in a clan or village was dictated not by who had the most possessions, but instead by who gave away the most. The more lavish and bankrupting the potlatch, the more prestige gained by the host family.

Some researchers believe evolutionary forces may have favored gift giving. Men who were the most generous may have had the most reproductive success with women. (Notably, the use of food in exchange for sexual access and grooming has been documented in our closest ape relative, the chimpanzee.) Women who were skilled at giving — be it extra food or a well-fitted pelt — helped sustain the family provider as well as her children.

Margaret Rucker, a consumer psychologist at the University of California, Davis, says men are typically more price-conscious and practical when it comes to the gifts they give and get, while women tend to be more concerned about giving and receiving gifts with emotional significance.

Dr. Rucker says she often recounts the story of a man who climbed a tree to retrieve a robin’s egg that matched his girlfriend’s blue eyes. “Women say, ‘Oh, how romantic,’” she said. “But men say, ‘That’s the dumbest thing I’ve ever heard of, and also what about the mama bird?’”

Gender differences in gift giving seem to emerge early in life. Researchers at Loyola University Chicago studied 3- and 4-year-olds at a day-care center, all of whom had attended the same birthday party. The girls typically went shopping with their mothers and helped select and wrap the gift. Boys, meanwhile, were often unaware of what the gift was. “They’d say, ‘I took a nap while my mom went shopping for it,’” said Mary Ann McGrath, the associate dean of the graduate school of business at Loyola.

Gift giving is often the most obvious way a partner can show interest, strengthen a bond or even signal that a relationship should end. One colleague of Dr. Rucker’s noted that she knew her marriage was over when her husband handed her a gift in a brown grocery bag.

People who stop giving gifts lose out on important social cues, researchers say. “Who is on your gift list is telling you who is important in your life,” Dr. McGrath said. “It says who is more important and who is less important.”

But the biggest effect of gift giving may be on ourselves. Giving to others reinforces our feelings for them and makes us feel effective and caring, Dr. Langer said.

read this article here, Thanks Tara Parker!

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